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writes: hi im a 16 year old girl.ive only ever dated boys but now ive been lookin at girls and thinkin wat it would be like to be with a girl. my friend is gay and told me she likes me and wants to be with me,i have been thinkin about it and i do like her in the same way but im scared people will find out. am i gay? what should i do please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, doublethink +, writes (30 July 2006):
 Sorry to hear you're having a hard time.The question you have to ask yourself is "Am I attracted to women?" If you like women best as friends, that doesn't mean you're gay. If you're curious about what it would be like to 'be with a girl', that doesn't mean you're gay.If you find women sexually attractive, if you want to be in romantic relationships with women and you want to have sex with women, that's a pretty good indicator that you're bisexual or gay.If you're just curious, ask your friend!If you want to be in a relationship with her, I think you need to (a) accept that this probably makes you at least a little bit gay; (b) talk to your friend - how does she feel about your confusion and your fears?Don't ever go out with someone because THEY like YOU - you're supposed to like them back, not just be flattered!I can understand why you'd worry about people finding out. I was worried about that enough that I only started telling people I was gay after I'd left school and gone to Uni. Unfortunately that meant I didn't have the support of my friends when I really needed it. I'd say be careful who you tell, but trust me when I tell you that people who are really your friends won't care, and people who care more about who you sleep with than about your personality aren't your friends anyway.Think carefully and be brave enough to do what's really right for you - never mind what other people want you to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): No your not I think your like everybody else scared to admit there curious its ok but to explore this with a friend ,its somemthing you should think long and hard on if you decided to do this and do not enjoy it with them and your decisen you have made it can play a big , roll in your well being and friendship so thing hard on is it someting you want to really do anjd if you really were gay you wouldnt be thinking about it lol you'd be doing it by now and the boys will be a big yuk in your life so i dont think your gay.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Okay firstly do you want to risk your relationship by using your friends as an experiment to see if your gay, straight or bi. If you think your friendship is the worth the risk then go for it. Never let people judgements stop you from living your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): Your only sixteen and might not yet be sure if you like girls or guys. You could try experimentingand see what makes you the happiest. Who cares if people find out. Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of. Eperimenting with girls does not make you gay.
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