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writes:Heya, I have been in a long term relationship for around a year and a half now. I absolutely love my boyfriend but recently i've been getting feelings for another guy now. MY bf lives far away so we don't see each other much but talk on the fone at least once a day. This other guy is a friend of mine. I've known him for about half a year now. He's sweet, nice, funny and we share all the same interests. Every time I see him i get this feeling inside me that i don't get when i see my boyfriend. Am I falling in love with someone else? PLease help. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): When I was with my first boyfriend (three and a half years) I had a couple crushes while we were together. I think it was just the thought of someone new who liked me that excited me. I fell out of love with my bf as I got to know him more and more and found things I didn't like. After I broke up with him and all was said and done, I didn't want to be with those other guys. They were just crushes, and not every crush needs to turn into a relationship.
However, if I had met someone who I knew i could be happier with and in a better relationship with, I would have broken it off with him right there. There's no need to string something along that will just end soon anyway
So question is, is the new guy someone who is worth ending a relationship, someone who you can be with if you weren't with your boyfriend? Or is he just a nice, sweet, funny guy who you enjoy being around?
If he's not worth it, then remove the temptation. Slowly stop being friends with him. It sounds hard, but it'll be worth it to be faithful and good to your boyfriend. If you want to be with him, then it's not right to be flirting with another guy behind he's back when he's too far away to even know or do anything about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): If you want to know for sure whether your feelings for Guy B are real, or just a desire for some male companionship, tell your Boyfriend to come down and visit you. If the feelings for Guy B still persist in spite of your Bf's presence, then maybe there is something to it. However, don't proceed with your feelings without breaking up with Guy A first. Also, are your feelings reciprocated by Guy B?
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 To answer your question. Yes you are falling in love with someone else. Long disance relationship have a very high fail rate especially at your age. You should be out having fun not waiting by the phone for a guy whose a long way off. Be kind to him and break if off before starting with the other guy. It won't be easy but it's the only fair thing to do.
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