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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone. Ok this is long so sorry! I just got out of a 3 year relationship in which the last 8months were verbally abusive and miserable.Anyway, before I met this guy I had been so in love with a guy friend. Seriously I fell in love with him when I was 12 up until I was 18 when I met my ex. I only got over him because I started dating this other guy. I never knew if the feelings were reciprocated cuz I was afraid to say anything. I finally asked the guy friend today about a time when we were 15 and we were talking one night on the beach and he got really close to me to the point he was only a few inches from my face...and my brother then came and interrupted. I asked him if it was just me or if it was leading to something. He shocked me and told me that he had wanted to kiss me cuz he really liked me. He then said it would have been hard cuz at the time we lived 3 hours apart and only saw each other a few times a year. I admitted to him that I had been in love with him, and we talked about how he didnt say anything either because he didn't want to risk that maybe I didn't like him back. The incident where we almost kissed was the closest we got. When we were 16 he then got a girlfriend, and has been with her since (5 years)...although it has sort of been on/off at times. So anyways over the years we stayed close, talked alot still. He now goes to school 20 hours away, and his gf and him are now long-distance.The issue...after we talked about that incident, he had this different attitude and he started talking about all our memories when we would hang out and when we liked each other. At the beginning he had said he only had 20min. to talk cuz he was going out with his friends, the conversation ended up being 2 hours. Anyways when he finally had to leave he said "It was really great to talk to you today, I really hope we can talk again soon?"Now I probably sound stupid...but am I reading too much into this? Do you think there is any possibility that he may still have deep down feelings for me since he did like me for like 3 years? And even if I am imagining it...might it be good to kind of just crush on him even if it's hopeless to just get my mind off the ex? Even though I know my ex is a jerk I miss having someone, I've been used to it for 3 years. My guy friend was the first guy I loved and to find out that he actually did like me back has me sitting here remembering back to all the times I thought he was hinting that he liked me. I just wish I could go back to that moment and go for it. It honestly made me cry.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 unfortunatly no one can control thier emotions, all I can say to you is make an effort to get over your friend and go out to meet new people, because you never know where you'll find your knight in shining armour =)good luckxx
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