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writes:My gf broke up with me almost 5 months ago now and we've talked a lot since then and its been really hard to let her go. I know shes moving on and doing fine, has a new bf already, and i'm doing fine as well, except when i talk to her or have any kind of interaction with her whatsoever, it just brings back so many memories(which is funny we havent been together too long, half a year mebbe, and its already been almost as long since). The thing is she counts me as a friend and i do likewise, but i dont know if this is the wisest choice on my part, to keep doing this to myself as some have put it, because it just leaves me kind of empty every time i talk to her and i'm afraid i might do something stupid or worse because of feelings i still have. Also, supposing i was in a relationship with someone else, i dont want to give them the wrong idea by talking to my ex as a friend, i know a lot of people are put off by that and feel jealous or something. Am I doing the wrong thing in staying friends with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I know exactly what you mean.
I was with this guy, on and off for about 4 years. And it was really hard. But I truly did love him. And then something major happened and we split for good. Its been a couple months and were still good friends. Yes its hard sometimes. And yes the new significant others feel weird. But weve both moved on. And were really happy now.
I say all you have to do is just go slow, and not include them in your life as much. Come to realize things will never be the same. Yes its difficult but its worth it in the end.
Also if it helps, try talking to her?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Yes, because it's obvious you're still clinging to hope and don't move on. I don't think you should avoid her like she were a bad girl, but just don't see her anymore and go on with your life without her. Which, by the way, is what your life will be like from now on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): listen mate there is no harm in talking to your ex if you went out with someone else just you wouldn't be able to give your ex to much or what you said bout being jealous might happen. take and dont worry. peace out!!
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Yes it's good when people split up and stay friends but you need to stop having these feelings as it will ruining your friendship. I feel the only thing you want is for you to to get back together and your going about it the wrong way stayin friends is a good thing but you feel more and she doesnt, Just get over your feelings and stay friends.
Good luck.
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