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36-40,
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writes:Dear Aunts and UnclesI dont want to mess this up again as I never had any one to advise me on relationships when I was growing up so I made lots of mistakes.Cutting a long story short, I met up with my ex mid last year. Had a few dates and became intimate. He even came to a work xmas do with me (as a friend). He is dead scare of commitment. We have great chemistry and great communication between us.After party I called him new years eve and he did not call again until the night before Valentines. I worked really hard at not chasing him. He knows I dont really like talking on the phone. That night he called me three times until i eventually answered.I was light and pleased to hear from him and did not question why it took so many weeks for him to call. I made no demands on him and I think he was rather surprised as its not my usual behaviour.He ended the conversation on, we will meet up soon. I later texted him as I work for an airline and promised to give him my staff travel details.I said he is welcome to use them only thing I want is in exchange is a night out to a gig at some point. I love him as a friend but I cant deal with FWB. It was starting to hurt the absence of time it took for him to contact me.He is not seeing anyone exclusively. Neither of us has every married. I have a family.Am I doing the right thing. I do not want to push him away but I want to see if he may consider a really serious relationship in the future. Obviously I am not sitting here waiting on him. I will continue to date.Any words of advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2016): Original poster: When you have been through as much as we have together, its hard to forget about each other. when I fell pregnant with my first child and the father was being an ass hole, this guy was there for me. I was carrying another man's child but he was there. (That's caring for a friend). He keeps dipping in and out of my life. He was my first love and I will always love him and I know he has a connection with me judging by the chemistry we have. I am still trying to work out what he is afraid off but I am not wasting time waiting on him. I know its hard for you to get an idea of situations based on a few lines but this guy is very special to me and I will always love him. He has made contact with me with out me chasing him, that says something.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 February 2016):
 I would honestly forget about him.
He isn't looking for a relationship. What he wants is an occasional partner or companion. And you are "free" versus an escort who would cost money.
Sorry, I think you are wasting your time hoping he will change. He won't.
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