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writes:I'm really happy with my bf, only been together a month but things are going amazing... but theres a problem in the bedroom... we've both had other sexual partners with no problemsbut basically the times we've tried to have sex either he gets soft and we cant continue... or he comes before hes even in me i'm worried it's something i'm doing wrong... we struggle getting his penis in mehe gets really upset after attempts but i'm understanding, neither of us have been in a relationship where we're so open or trusting and attraction is deffinatly there, i really care for him, i'm not going to let this affect the rest of our relationship, but it worries me he's letting it get him down Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): You're not doing anything wrong. It could be an emotional thing on his part. After my first marriage ended, I had an adjustment period, similar to what you are discribing. I was able to get an erection with my girlfriend but it last during sex. It would stay hard until we started having sex. It was frustrating and confusing for me at the time. Things did get better. After that relationship ended I began dating my current wife. I experienced the same thing when we first started being intimate. I then determined it was an emotional thing for me. In my mind I was still "emotionally" attached to my previous partner. It didn't feel right for me to be having sex with someone else. Again it was just a transition period. Both partners were patient with me during those periods and they eventually passed. So just be patient with him and things will gradually get better.
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reader, LaBellefox  +, writes (26 May 2010):
 I'm sorry this is happening to you two, that really sucks! i would take things slow easy with him. i dont believe this has never happened to him before. have him go get checked my a Dr. research this on the internet. erectile disfunction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): Assume he came. Be patient, give him a special treatment from there and when the time comes, you take the control.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 May 2010):
No, it's not you. 99.9% of the time, it's never the woman. It's generally a man thing. Most likely he's nervous, shy or stressed. But it's certainly not you.
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