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writes:Im not stupid i think i know whats going on, but my husband says im crazy and its all in my head so I would like to ask some one else there opinion. I have been with my husband for 3 years, over the past few months his sex drive has gone from full blown to he wont even let me touch him. I dont get kisses from him or even hugs. He comes home from his job installing cable where hes in and out of peoples houses all day, gets home around 6-11 at night, and just sits on the couch. I give him advances all the time, nothing back, i kiss him, nothing back. I feel like im another guy when i hug him. Tonight i asked if i could go down on him and he freaks out on me and says no he has not showered, than his phone rings it a unavailable # and he snatched the phone from my hand (mind you its 12 at night, no one calls us that late). I think one of two things, hes not attracted in me any more, or hes cheating on me. I know he still into sex because i catch him checking personal adds and watching porn, he says he just does not care about sex.. what do you think? I would love to know im not crazy.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Well porn is not sex, so impotency might still be a problem. Check if he gets morning wood.
If he really works such long hours, then stress might be an issue. Performance anxiety could be a reason. What happened the last time?
If he cheating, then why refuse a blowjob? If he is cheating on you after all, why would he mind cheating on his new girl?
He could have an STD and not want to pass it on. He might think you have an STD.
The options are near endless. Go back to the period BEFORE things changed. What happened, in your life, in his life and in your relationship? Remember that it doesn't have to be something real, stress or suspicions of cheating can be entirely in someone's head.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 it does sound very suspect, and why does he come home between 6 n 11 that is a huge time margin! my bloke sometimes works a hr extra at work, but 5?! thats crazy. i wouldnt trust your bloke if i was you so im not suprised your feeling the way you do, another thing that got me was you said he looks at personal adds.... WHY! what possible reason would he have to do that when hes married? i would have some serious doubt if my bloke was doing that. and if/when it all comes out dont blame yourself huni, remember its on him and you've done nothing wrong. good luck x
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (11 August 2009):
 your not crazy , Do you have a job a car individual bank account if you dont you need to get all that.
You need to get evidence of your husband cheating, theres companies that specialize in this private investigators dont try going it on your own.
Keep some one your close to in your family involved sister mother etc let them no whats going on it will help with your sanity to talk with some one close about it.
Stop approaching him about cheating rte now he son his A game if you stop buggin him he will drop his and start slippin up it may take some time but you will catch him.
You can ask him one last time to if hes cheating tell him to promise you hes not cheating this way when you catch him he will have broken his promise you wont have to have any remorse.
I dont kno this guy but if his wife feels this way i can come to the decision hes not a very good husband so im siding with you and i firmly beleive hes cheating.
This advice may sound complicated but its really not just time consuming but it will give you something to do untill you find out the truth.
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