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writes:Well I kind of feel confused about this so called "relantionship". Im 16 and in 11th grade but it all started when i was in 8th. Theirs this boy who use to like me and would make passes at me all the time asking me to marry him and everything, he even tried to finger me in the middle of class but of course i shot him down. over the years from 8th grade to 10th grade he still flirted and i really started to get feelings for him(but never knew how to show them because im very shy) now were in 11th and he pays me no hardley no mind but when he does i melt. all the girls want him, hes a star football player, (he's also a big pimp so to say). now i kick myself for letting him pass when i did. He tells me about his other relantionships and problems with his girlfriends now and it just eats me up. We never really talked over the phone together or anything but he was always their, i have tried to talked to a friend about this but she makes me feel like im crazy and obsessing about so i leave it alone. In short am i crazy for feeling so much love for this guy ( and i mean its alot)?Thanx for your replies in advance
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (23 January 2009):
 I don't think you're crazy.. some guy who use to like you is suddenly THE man to be with. It's only natural for you to regret your decision.
I think he considers you a good friend for your past together, but that's about it.
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reader, RunsWithScissors +, writes (23 January 2009):
You are infatuated with him, which is a normal part of life. But do you like him because he's a good guy (respectful, polite, treats women well, kind, etc.) or do you like him because he's cute and everyone else wants him too? There are some guys who will say anything to a woman to get what they want. I find it very odd that in 8th grade he would ask you to marry him all the time, then ask to "finger" you in class. He was attracted to you, but I wouldn't take it to heart beyond that. You will find over your life that you will be attracted to many guys and they will be attracted to you, but that doesn't mean you always act on it. What you have to do when you are attracted to a guy is ask yourself: Does this guy respect me? Does he also flirt with other women? Does he actually care for me? Is he just telling me what I want to hear? If you're honest with yourself you'll know the answers to the above questions. If it is simply an attraction and not the ideal man, then just enjoy the attraction for what it is but don't take it to heart...guard your heart and give it to someone truly deserving. I'm also willing to bet the problems with his other girlfriends are along the lines of them wanting "too much" from him or wanting him exclusively. That's because they know they don't have his heart. Guys like that don't give their heart away, they play the field and have fun and that's it.
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