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writes:I Moved to a new city, a new school and really started liking this guy who is a very nice loving guy. we told each other our feelings and made out a couple of times, but i told him i don't want a relationship now as we need to study really hard. This was the story for 8 months..20 days back, me and my childhood best friend who is 21 (i am 17) and lives 500km away.. Started talking about relationships etc..we both have crushed on each other in the past but it was always wrong timing. I have always loved him and so has he, and we have amazing chemistry and compatibility. So, 20 days back, i realized i loved him more than anything and confessed and so did he. Now, we literally behave like we are in a relationship and well its amazing cuz i feel like its all i ever wanted. But, i am not being fair to the other guy, but i cant tell him cuz he really needs to study very well for a month and not screw up his exams because of this.My issue is,Am i cheating on the other guy?How can i have a long distance relationship?He is 4 years elder, Is it a big deal?Thank you for your help,Appreciate it :D
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 February 2013):
 well you either have a local boyfriend or you have an LDR but you can't have both and if you are in a relationship LDR right now AND seeing this local boy you are doing both of them wrong..
but I have to be honest....
at 16 I don't think an LDR is a good idea
1. 500km is a lot... how often will you see this young man? if you won't see each other often, there is really no sense is being a couple.
2. he's 4 years older which at 20 and 24 is nothing but at 16 and 20 is a lot
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reader, Roxypuss  +, writes (19 February 2013):
You say to the other guy you're not in a relationship so you're not although it's kinda to tell him you won't be able to go out after your exams, honesty is always the right path with these things saves wasting peoples time.
As for the LDR they are possible but you have to make sure you have regular meetups else they won't be fulfilling you or you could suggest being in an open relationship. 4 years differences is fine at 17, I was dating someone 25 at 18 and it didn't make much difference if anything he was more immature than me. Good luck!
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