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writes:I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer.Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner. Ms.XXX started asking me to grab some of the insurance in between our lunch/dinner. I agreed to take up few plans, but soon after she became busier then before. We hardly meet up now as Ms.XXX tells me she's really busy with her work this days. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question*A big thank you for everyone who advised me; really appreciated.*
Just two days ago she text me to meet up on Saturday during the late afternoon. I was kinda over joy she asked and actually took some time.
But joy became a disappointment when she didn't reply since 11AM till midnight on Saturday.
I'm getting to see the picture clearly, of where i stand now.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (7 September 2012):
 I would consider giving her an ultimatum. Either we start to spend more time together or I leave until we can get this worked out. It sounds like she is not a very personable person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for the advise.
BondGirl72 - Its my Insurance, but it sign it with her as she's the financial planner.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (6 September 2012):
Oh, never mind...I thought it was her insurance, but it was actually yours. In that case, what I said is not important on that aspect. But, I would tell her you are leaving if things don't improve...and if she doesn't improve them, I would stick to your word and leave.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (6 September 2012):
I would break it off with her. There is a thing as being busy or having busy times in life or with a job, but a relationship should be your soft spot to land during such times...not something to put on the back burner or avoid. Texting does not really constitute having a relationship to me. Spending quality time with one another to share your hopes and dreams does.
I also respect that she seems to be a career woman, but not at the expense of your relationship. There are only so many times using the excuse "I'm really busy" actually goes over well as an excuse for not seeing you. After about the second time, the "significant other" uses that excuse, they start turning into someone you know longer know or care about. My ex used that excuse until I no longer had the desire to talk with him or be with him. At that point, I just left. I understand people need to make money, but when I become second or third in line to a job and his "free time activities" then I no longer want to mess around with someone who treats me that way.
You have to decide if you want to put up with the constant excuses or leave. Besides, I think a woman who genuinely cared about you would be emotionally distraught if you told her you were leaving. All your girlfriend talked about was using you for insurance purposes. Doesn't sound like she really cares. I would get out while you can.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 September 2012):
 So she wants to use you for your insurance? I'm not sure how the insurance fits into the scheme.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell.. Recently i had a talk with her telling her i dont wish to continue my insurance plans; she then started saying if it was due to her being busy and not having time for me. She then kept text-ing for the next day; but 2nd day onward was back to square one.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (6 September 2012):
I agree with the others and would let her go. If a girl likes you, she will go out of her way to be with you, be near you, and communicate with you. She does not seem interested.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 September 2012):
She doesn't seem to be into you at all. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012): I agree It doesn't sound as though she's into you the same way you're into her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 September 2012):
 she doesn't care about you the way you want her to.
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