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writes:I'm in my early 40's. I am an Aries and a giving person who loves to make others happy. I was married at 25 for 8 yrs, and divorced. I have since dated 2 men each for 3 yrs and the one presently now for 2 years. The first BF had a drug problm, the 2nd was a nice guys but cheap. He'd take advantage of anything he could including me. The man I date now is the total opposite of both of them with the exception of lazy I guess your'd call it. He did have hip surgery that put him out of commissionfor 6 months and which was work related. Don't get me wrong when he was working he worked. He also had money to pay people to cut his greass, clean his house and so on. I ask if he could sit down and do his bills, put his clothes away, organize paperwork the things that he is capable of doing. His reply is he's been busy. I think he is on the couch watching tv as I always catch him doing. Needles to say I end up doing things for him all the time. This is beginning to bother me as I know he is capabale of doing some stuff by now. Am I beiong too picky? I think people take advantage of me as it has happened in the past.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Danielepew has hit the nail on the head. Don't become his maid if you don't want to be.
Let his household chores, laundry, bill paying, be his problem, not yours.
It sounds like you're not happy with his household management. Well, how things are done there are his problem. Don't make them yours.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Do people take advantage of you cause YOU let them? stop picking up after your bf and force him to act like an grown up. I'm fed up with women comments about men not doing housework, it really angers me as my dad always helps around the house and my boyfreind helps around the flat we share.
Stop cooking him dinner and just cook for yourself and kids, really step it up or just leave it, if you can't follow through with your moaning then just stop.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I think he can do his own paperwork and stuff. Maybe he just doesn't want to, or is just procrastinating. Heavier work seems to be out of the question, at least for now, since he had hip surgery. I find it reasonable that he pays someone else to do that kind of work for him, at least for the moment.
If he's otherwise a good person, let him be. Just don't become his maid. Let all the garbage pile up in his couch and his living room. Eventually he will do it himself, or pay someone to do it. It's not your job to do it.
If he ever moves in with you, let him share his half of household chores.
Take care.
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