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writes:My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year now. We meet every so often in real life, but are now working on saving money to move in together as soon as his papers are done (long story). He lives in the US and I live in Canada, he's 25 and I'm 24.Ok, now for the question. My bf has always been a gamer, especially with World of Warcraft (WoW) or Final Fantasy. He used to tell me how he'd go like 2 days straight playing and how he used to be really addicted and wouldn't even hang out with friends because he wanted to play. And he also told me about girls he met on there, just a bunch of weird stuff. Anyways, he wants to play, but he wants me to play with him too mainly because he knows how I feel about him getting into gaming again and becoming addicted. So he wants me to join so I guess I won't nag him or something.I'm a bit paranoid. I mean, on one hand I'm afraid he'll meet some other girl on there like he used to, and yeah that sounds silly but hey it's possible. Also, I'm afraid that he's going to get too addicted again and totally neglect me. I could be playing with him, but I know I'll eventually get bored and annoyed if I see he wants to play ALL the time rather than just talk to me. I get jealous easily, and I feel neglected easily.. I'm afraid this might bring out the worst in me. What do you think? Has anyone tried this before? Is it a good idea to purchase the game and start playing with him? Am I being too paranoid? Do I have good reason to be paranoid?If I do decide to play, how can I make sure it does not go sour..? This is really bugging me.
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reader, Waging Peace +, writes (5 February 2011):
Waging Peace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe relationship is good otherwise, and yes I do enjoy playing even though he doesn't join me lol. I'm not so paranoid also, so I guess that's good :)
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Hah, that's kinda funny... but kinda disappointing.
Are you still paranoid though? Is your relationship good otherwise? Are you enjoying the game even if he's not playing?? :)
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reader, Waging Peace +, writes (5 February 2011):
Waging Peace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE!
So we both purchased the game about a month ago. I absolutely loved playing it, as I've never really played something like this before (and I can get into games easily as I used to play lots of x-box games for hours). It's great that I enjoy it right?
Well WRONG! The tables completely turned and he doesn't really feel the urge to want to play with me ever, I surpassed him in levels (on two separate characters) and I wait for him to catch up to play together but he never plays! And he pokes fun at me for getting "addicted" (even though I don't play everyday). It's frustrating that he introduced this game and suggested it would make our relationship better, and yet..now that he's not so into it he doesn't want to play it often. He keeps comparing it to games he used to play, and won't just enjoy the time with me. Bleh..
Funny how situations change huh? :)
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (3 December 2010):
Try to be involved in the decision process about what game you end up playing. I'm sure he won't mind giving you a run down on what each game is supposedly like.
No point playing a game that he likes and you think is stupid.
:) Good-luck noobie!
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reader, Waging Peace +, writes (3 December 2010):
Waging Peace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for everyones reply! I actually spoke to him about it tonight, and I told him everything I was concerned about, so I was 100% honest (even about the girl thing, lol). He made me feel more secure and thinks I'm going to get addicted before he will (we'll see lol).
He's basically going to choose a game (either WoW, FF, or Aion), and I'm going to play with him. I'm looking forward to it, and he said if it got too out of hand I could tell him to quit and he would. Not sure If I believe that part, but at least we might get addicted together, I suppose it could bring us closer. He's already feeling a little excited and poking fun at me saying how cute it is that I'm a noob with these online games and how he's going to train me lol...
I think it's going to be fun, and I'm looking forward to it :]
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 I agree with Jmtmj's advice, but I would like to add some suggestions. Is it possible to play World of Warcraft without going online? If so, maybe you would feel more comfortable if he played against the computer rather than people on the internet.
Also, if you are worried about him becoming addicted to his games, you should discuss this in advance. Come to an agreement about the maximum number of hours he can spend playing games per day.
I think this is a problem that can be easily dealt with. Let us know what happens. Good luck!
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reader, welshgirlgemma  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Yeah you should try it with him. He most probably wants you to play with him because thats his main interest. It's what he likes doing. And wants you to be a part of that. Talk with him and make sure that he's not devoting 100% of the time on the games but actually spending some time with you aswell. I'm sure it will all work out just fine! :)
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (1 December 2010):
Yeh, can't hurt to try it.
Plus in addition to being able to talk to him for hours, (buy a cheap head-set), you can also jump, dance and should you feel the need... kill each other. :D
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reader, Waging Peace +, writes (1 December 2010):
Waging Peace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I know I'm being a little silly of course. And I tend to be a little jealous I can't help it. But yeah, I guess I should play it with him, at least he wants to play with me right?
I'll talk to him about it tonight :]
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (1 December 2010):
You're worried he's going to meet another girl on world of warcraft??
*blink* :|
Give the game a shot, its a chance to bond with your boyfriend- he'll love you for it and you may even find it fun yourself...
How to make sure it doesn't go sour..? Just talk to him silly. :)
Good-luck!
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