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writes:I am 36 years old not much experienced in dating. If a guy is supposed to pick you up at 2.00 to 3.00 and until 1 pm didn't tell you of any change of plans.When you message him at 2.15 informs you that he won't be able to make it.Is it common courtesy that you expected him to inform that he won't be able to pick me up?Not only did he not inform me,he tried to turn the tables on me by trying to act that I was the one who was supposed to meet him.I felt it was a grave insult to my intelligence. I wanted to break it up but was told that I was too demanding and I am having a princess attitude. Also his ex is trying to win him back into his life ,this Sunday he wants me to be in the same concert where she will be accompanying him too. I obviously am uncomfortable. He never told her that he pursued me. He told her that he is helping me out. He did help me out a lot in the beginning but he also pursued me. We have had sex one time. I don't even feel like going anymore anywhere but my son has been excited about the concert and July 4th fireworks. I think it would be very harsh to disappoint him.I am going ahead with the plans but my heart is not in it at the moment. Am I being too demanding expecting a Lil common courtesy to inform me before time of change in plans. Is that princess attitude... Would appreciate some insights here.I know my age but I have barely dated and would like to correct myself if I am wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2016): I would like to thank everyone who answered. He told his ex that he would rather not go to the concert with her. So it was just me and him. I didn't even feel happy. I was just miserable the whole time. He was on his phone for a long time texting his ex.I realized that it's not for me. If he thinks I am too demanding,so be it. I am better off being alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2016): I am the OP.
Until 1 pm he kept telling me that he was picking me up.
He had invited me to the concert much before we had this fight about the missed plan. We are not very rich and we are getting to go free because of him which is very kind of him since he has known me for just about a month.
He told me his ex wanted to go to and if my son and me wanted to go.I don't drive due to various reasons and as much as I feel uncomfortable with an ex who is still pursuing him,I think it could be beneficial to understand the guy a Lil better.
But if I don't feel happy at the end of this weekend,I am planning to respect myself and walk away
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (2 July 2016):
 I think he's still seeing this other girl and you are his side chick.
I would break up with someone like that. I don't care if someone accuses me of having a princess attitude. If a man does not treat me well, I will find another man who wants to treat me well.
Forget this playa. He's busy with another woman.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 July 2016):
 I don't think you are wrong. I think you have standards. And anyone who tells you you have an attitude, obviously does not have standards and will just go along with anything because they are desperate.
Yes, it's common courtesy to let someone know AHEAD OF TIME whether they can make it or not.
Same as, you don't go to a job interview that was supposed to start at 2pm, and then show up at 2.30 pm and still expect to get the job.
Some people just don't respect others, and this shows in how they keep their appointments and if they leave people waiting for them/don't bother with informing them ahead of time, it shows they lack respect for the other person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2016): You're not being demanding, quite the opposite. Don't allow him to treat you that way. His ex wants him back and he's going to a concert with her, why? I doubt he'd like it if you showed up with your ex.
Date around, find a man who is respectful and caring and shows up when he says he will and if plans change, he picks up the phone and tells you.
Go to the concert and enjoy time with your son.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 July 2016):
 You beau is playing mind-games.
He is trying to make you bend over backwards because you know there is "competition" with his ex. So WHEN you point out something (like him not picking you as planned) he throws HER in your face... Low blow if you ask me, wouldn't call it a great insult.. just a low blow.
So he is going to a concert with his ex and you are supposed to show up? Why? Again? mind-games.
I'd go with your son and YOU two have a great time, let him do whatever with his ex.
And no, it's not a "princess attitude" to expect people to keep their promises and stick to the plan. that is called common sense.
Personally, I'm not sure I'd keep seeing this guy. Seems like there is more going on with the ex than what he is saying and then add his little mind-games... yeah, not my kind of fella.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (2 July 2016):
 No your correct IMO. It doesn't take much to extend a little courtesy. Perhaps communication was crossed and you were supposed to meet him, it happens but this aside, what you should be focused on I think is this relationship he has with his ex. Sounds like you will be part of a juggling act. I'd still go to the fire works, without him and as far away if you see him there. You and your son should go and have fun, don't let this guy spoil it for you.
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