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anonymous
writes:i have been with my partner for 2 yaers now sex was amazing at the start and has slowly drifted of i have a realy high sex drive and want sex every daywell to the point my boyfriend has totaly gone of sex and only wants it if he is drunk or watched porn first i feel realy insucure about it and have tried to talk to him about it but dont get anywheresince we have been together i have i have put on a bit of weight and even tho he is forever telling me how beautiful i am i feel unattractive i am scarede that he will leave me for someone who is pretter than me he has never given me any reson not to trust him and i love him to bits but im scared am i being stupid or do you think i am right to fell like this plaese help x x x
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reader, klouise  +, writes (10 January 2008):
I can relate to this question as i have been there.
Are you feeling insecure because he watches the porn?
That can make you feel rubbish.
You need to keep looking in the mirror and remind yourself what you love about yourself.
Why not sit him down and talk to him about how you feel maybe ask him why he has gone off sex?
Do not push him though make him aware that you r there to support as he may have a worry that you might go somewhere else.
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reader, Starry Meadow  +, writes (10 January 2008):
Then try not to worry. ^__^ And I know how you feel,I feel that way about myself sometimes, too. But, I always feel better after a 30-60 min. excerise and a warm soapy bath. Maybe that'll work for you, too. Oh, and painting your nails after the bath is good, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for the help he works long days and i know he is not cheating if we dont have sex we just fall to sleep in each others arms he is always telling me he loves me buti just feel fat and ugly i keep asking him if he still loves me and sill finds me sexy he just says of course kisses me and carrys on watching tv x x
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reader, Starry Meadow +, writes (9 January 2008):
I think it's normal to feel insecure about yourself, but don't let it bother you, you're certainly not stupid. Your partner and you probably just need a little sex break (and I don't mean take a break to have sex ^_^ ). Maybe the two of you could try for a whole week to just be romantic to each other. You know, like go to a movie, fall asleep holding hands, send each other little love notes,etc.
But, that's just a suggestion though, so don't take the advice if it's not for you.
^__^ Either way, you're not stupid, okay?
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reader, paulch1955 +, writes (9 January 2008):
I think it is so difficult trying to give you some advice without knowing you or your guy, the could be lots of reasons why he has gone off sex with you, he could be stressed and run down, getting it with someone other than you, low sex drive, or one of the other many reasons why he dose not want sex.
the best person to know why is yourself, or close friends, but at the end of the day things needs to change if your relationship is to carry on, so you have to find out why he has changed, have you asked him? sorry I cant be more help but without knowing you both its hard to know the reason.
hope things get better
Paul
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