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writes:How does a 26 year old female go about the scene of dating, relationships, and becoming intimate? It feels so late in the game! Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Don't stress about it that's for sure. The girls I know who leave it late in the dating scene usually give out this air of total desperation - which is a major turn off for guys.
Just be yourself, my wife always says there's no harm in flirting to let a guy know you are interested.
Of course there is always the numerous amounts of dating sites and the like that are out there. Before you discount this option they can at least give you an opportunity to communicate with men , moreover, you can do it from the safety of your own home.
Just a word of warning, married men of the cheating variety will see you as an easy target, if you meet a guy always ask for his home phone number, if he gives an excuse or wont give it to you, chances are he has someone waiting at home for him.! Also, my wife said her mother told her to avoid the cocky self assured types who spray you with compliments right from the word go - they are just trying to get you into bed!
And finally on a first date never arrange to meet in a pub or a club, try and make it during the day for coffee or lunch, you dont want to be in a situation where he is plying you with drinks.
Good luck!
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (10 January 2008):
Don't stress about it that's for sure. The girls I know who leave it late in the dating scene usually give out this air of total desperation - which is a major turn off for guys.
Just be yourself, my wife always says there's no harm in flirting to let a guy know you are interested.
Of course there is always the numerous amounts of dating sites and the like that are out there. Before you discount this option they can at least give you an opportunity to communicate with men , moreover, you can do it from the safety of your own home.
Just a word of warning, married men of the cheating variety will see you as an easy target, if you meet a guy always ask for his home phone number, if he gives an excuse or wont give it to you, chances are he has someone waiting at home for him.! Also, my wife said her mother told her to avoid the cocky self assured types who spray you with compliments right from the word go - they are just trying to get you into bed!
And finally on a first date never arrange to meet in a pub or a club, try and make it during the day for coffee or lunch, you dont want to be in a situation where he is plying you with drinks.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Oh my god you are still a baby. I am 27 and I am not married. All of my friends are between 26 and 33 and none of us are married. Actually I don't even think I know a single person who is married. I know one girl who is married and if only you knew the details of that marriage. Its just weird.
People don't really get married that often nowadays. Especially in our age group. Marriage is overrated, hun. Most people get married because they SETTLE, believe it or not. I don't want to settle. I want to marry because I am absolutely madly inlove and happy and ecstatic. Not because I just want to get it over with and marry. Most married people don't even really get to experience what real true love is because they jump into things so quickly. Only VERY VERY few married people are actually happy and completely inlove. Most people marry for all the WRONG reasons. And those who are wise enough to be patient and be proud and not settle for anything less than what they want are the ones who will have good marriages.
So before you get down about not being married, you should instead think about what you want in a guy. And try to find someone who meets your criteria. And DON'T be afraid to dump guy after guy if he doesn' meet your criteria. You SHOULD be selective if you want to be happy. VERY selective. "Oh you don't want a serious relationship?" NEXT "Oh you have a drug habit?" NEXT "Oh you didn't call me friday night because of some lame excuse?" super NEXT. And this is not just talk. Do you know how many guys I've dumped? Alot. And they always regret it. Because guys KNOW how to treat you like a queen. So if they fall short of it, don't put up with it for a second, cause their just walking all over you and they know it.
You got to be proud. Be selective. Put yourself on a pedestal. Guys will not only respect you for it but its the ONLY way to weed out all the f*ckin losers out there.
And once you feel like you love yourself enough to be as SELECTIVE as you can possibly be, then just start going out with your friends and talking to guys. You can meet guys ANYWHERE. At a party (that's where I met my ex bf whom I adored), at a bar, restaurant, neighbors, at work, at the gym, at school, on a trip abroad (that's how I met my ex ex bf). I mean anywhere.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 I know a number of women that were late bloomers. Don't worry too much, as you will get plenty of make up time.
For starters, start asking your friends if they know anyone that you would like, and ask them to bring those guys along when you meet them for coffee. Let it start there.
IF you have male friends that want to date you, take them up on the offer even if you only see them as friends...you need the practice.
If you have male friends that you really do not want to date, offer to set them up with you single girlfriends, in exchange for them to set you up with their single guy friends, for double blind dates.
-Frank B Kermit
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