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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi ok so im 19 and i fell in love with my best friend, who is also a girl!! i plucked up the courage to tell her how i feel and the response was great!! we got closer than ever after i told her, and we are really intimate with each other! we are practically in a relationship with each other......the only problem is, she says she doesnt know if she wants a proper relationship with me because she is really worried about ruining our friendship and also shes worried about what her family will think (because they are quite posh with old fashioned standards)! she said she needs time to think but the problem is she is really bad at opening up and talking about things so im worried shes not gunna bring it up in conversation, and the thing is i keep asking her what shes thinking and she keeps saying she needs time! i dont want to keep pestering her but ive felt this way about her for over a year and i want to know where i stand!!so how long should i give her to think about things-its already been over a month. or do you think im wasting my time and should just give up? is there anything i can say or do to reassure her that we can work together and it will be fine, or shall i just not bother wasting my time?shes really intimate with me and there is definatly chemistry between us, and she has told me she has feelings for me! what should i do?!!? its driving me crazy!!!thankyou in advance for your helpxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 You need to set your own time frame. 1 month should be enough to decide . If she cannot give you an answer, it means that it is over.
She has experienced it all with you and I think she only wants the friendship part and is uncomfortable with the intimate parts due to her upbringings.She could be feeling guilty about it. She wants to be straight.
What was said in the past may not hold water now.She may have changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): welllllllllllll i think you should talk about the options and if there arrant any think of some dont let it pile up on her and if her parents dont agree then welll too bad its her life they can bring up stuff but cant really totally stop her help her out as much as she should help you out
if this advise dont work i hope someone else can help sorry if it dont!
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Savannah
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