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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:okay here goes....I was reading through my bf's phone earlier and found texts from 2 girls (they both work at the club he plays rugby for).He had deleted his sent items so I don't actually know what he said to them, but the texts from these girls had kisses on the end of them.After I had read these I confronted him, he said he only wanted me bla bla bla and deleted their numbers.I then checked his facebook (wrong I know, but I was suspicious from the texts) and found an email he had sent to one of the girls, he called her huni, asked if she was seeing anybody and put 4 kisses on the end.After thinking about this for a while I remembered sitting next to him while he was on facebook a week or so ago; a chat window was popping up from the same girl but he wouldn't check what she said while I was there. I got up and used the bathroom and when I had come back the chat window was gone.Am I being paranoid or have I got every right to be angry?
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reader, MissKin +, writes (10 April 2009):
 If you look for trouble. u shall find it.
give him a break. ur being overly suspicious. Chill out for awhile. the more you suspect - the more you're going to read into every little thing he does until it breaks you apart. texts aren't really cheating anyway, and i get kisses from guys all the time on texts and emails - some from my boyfriends best friends - and he's not suspicious. girls send kisses. guys send them back. it can be just a friend thing.
i'm not saying he ISN'T doing something he shudnt be. but i think ur being overzealous when it comes right down to it. just chill out. see if there is any need to be as paranoid as you are.
best of luck. x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 April 2009):
It sounds like crap to me.
I don't know him but my gut says that this excuse of his has more holes than a sieve.
Really really think about whether you want to be with a guy like this even if he's innocent and has friends who mess about with his phone, hack into his facebook, and mess up his relationships.
It sounds like more than I'd want to deal with.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, i confronted him.
apparently he didnt send the emails, his friend did.
he doesnt know how these girls got his number.
and he didnt think too tell me when i saw the fb conversation popping up because he wasnt talking to her, she was talking to him asking about the emails (that he/his friend hadnt even sent yet.)
he also said he is going to get these girls & his friend that sent the emails too text me. I dont know them from adam, why should i believe them! they dont know me so if he asked, im sure they would lie for him anyways.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 April 2009):
If they were texting him normal stuff and putting a X on the end then that would be nothing to worry about.
I put kisses on the ends of all my texts just through habit now. It means nothing really.
But his message to the girl with kisses and asking if she was single is NOT normal, or good.
Confront him again and to be honest I think you have to ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with a guy who sends those kinds of messages to girls and isn't open about it.
I have nothing against boyfriends and husbands having female friends, but when they hide it and don't introduce you then it's just not right.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (10 April 2009):
 Well I put kisses on the end of all of my texts, no matter who its too.And I talk to guys via facebook.I wouldnt read too much into it, unless you get a clearer sign that hes up to no good!For now, trust him.Good luckxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I would be angry too; He soundds like he is up to no good with these women.
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