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writes: My boyfriend and i have been going out for 6 months now, and it has been the best six months of my life. He is the first person I have ever let close to me and I am truly in love with him, but I get so jealous all of the time. He does aswell. Whenever we talk about a certain friend of mine, he get's incredibly jealous. But with me, it's worse. We go to the same college as a girl that he used to really like and had a thing with. This girl was one of my best friends. It really hurt my friend when we got together and although we didn't do it on purpose, I felt bad too. But now this friend is always around and I know how he used to feel for her. Some of the things he says to me are the same as what he said to her (all be it when he was drunk..) But sometimes I can't help but wonder if I'm just another girl in his long list. He says he loves me, and I believe him. He cries when he thinks I'm cross or angry with him and sometimes he cries and tells me how much I love him. So I do believe he loves me. Am I just being paranoid about the other girl? Or am I just another girl to him?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (21 February 2006):
 I think the root cause maybe that there are alot of emotions tied into this girl for both of you considering it actually cause alot of upset when you two got together. Here is something you should prehaps dwell on though, he went through all that and stood by you.
It seems to me that his actions are not what is giving you too much cause for concern. I am wondering if focsuing on those might help you here rather than what he says. Things said in the past, while under the influence of alcohol are just that. It seems to me that you do need to settle these insecurities you both have before they pose the relationship major problems.
Talking to each other about how you feel would hopefully help. Don't judge each other and aand accept each others insecurities and overcome them together. Also try and do little things that reassure each other how you feel. Hope that helps.
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