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writes:I went to a party recently with my gf. This is the second time (or third) she really goes out with these people instead of just being at school with them.My gf is loyal, but since we are LDR(5 hours by bus, right now), she seems less loyal to me... I went to visit her during a party.She kept being really nice only to one guy. She almost didn't talk to me at all, whenever I talked to her she just moved her head in a way to say, let's talk to other people, not each other. I tried to get her attention, but she didn't even say anything back. She was sitting on my lap at the first though. After a while she moved to a chair next to me.She is from a different culture, so she doesn't know how to be social here. She said she doesn't have any friends, but she actually does have quite a few friends, but they're just not so close with her. (though to me they seemed pretty close already?). So she does her best to make more friends.She said the reason she isolated herself away from me is that she thought it's rude to speak to her boyfriend when around other people, because in her country you should talk more to other people than with bf. Alright -- but that doesn't mean you should ignore me -_-. Anyway she says she only wanted to be polite. She also says there was nothing at all between her and that guy, and that she thinks the guy is ugly.When I went to the toilet, suddenly her chair was closer to the guy she kept being too nice to, it got me mad, but I didn't react. I told her everything when we were home. Whenever it's the guy's turn in the game, she talked so enthusiastically..During the game, the guy skipped my turn and went straight to her for her turn and was being too nice to my gf.. It was actually my turn... I really hated it and I felt so furious. It seemed too much like they like each other in a way more than friends, and the guy was impatient to make it my gf's turn to talk to her. My girlfriend also touched her hair and that kind of behaviour when talking to him. She denies all of it and gets mad when I say it though, but I really saw it..Am I paranoid? What is wrong? I want to trust her fully, but I just can't since this evening! And we already had another argument because I got jealous.... My girlfriend also said she had a crazy dream with holding hands with a stranger and she asked me if it's cheating or not... I said of course it is and I was kind of mad, but I didn't show I was mad.Please help me! We really love each other... But she really wants too much space, also when texting each other, she wants to text me less. (but it's true I text her too much sometimes..)So questions are mostly:- Am i being paranoid?- What would you do?- Should I still say something about this event, since it could happen again in the future?? The thought makes me crazy.I don't go out with girls, I don't go to girls' apartment so she's never jealous. Whenever I go out I make sure to send her a photo of me and my best friend so she can't be jealous. - She is never jealous. It's kind of unfair, it's driving me crazy...
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reader, Jay R  +, writes (7 November 2014):
I think you are not paranoid my friend, your girlfriend is playing a dangerous game. The best thing you should next time is to also go and talk to the most good looking woman at the social event. It's time you focused on you , go to the gym if you don't already do so if you don't want to go gym do some running, push ups and pull ups. Basically get fit and improve your dressing style . Be more confident , read books about different things or go online Read about different things that you will have more to talk about to that beautiful woman you will meet when your girl is running away. Self improvement it's always good bro and a confident. All the best don't believe nonsense about her culture women are woman , I have been with women from all cultures and they always be have the same when they like. Remember bro just because she sleeping with you it doesn't she likes enough to want to be with you forever .
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (7 November 2014):
It sounds like a case of too much jealousy and paranoia to me.
Probably caused by insecurity.
There's a few things you need to realize. First, there's nothing wrong with her being friendly to either sex.
Second, you need to stop reading g every sign imaginable for proof that she's up to no good. Signs are a dime a dozen when you're paranoid in the first place.
Third, let's say she does like the guy and is interested in him in some way. Oh well, you dump her because you're with someone that isn't faithful. There are billions of women out there.
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