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writes:I think i am nagging my boyfriend.my sisters say that i am obsessed with him.according to them i ask him too many questions.i cant stay without him and don't want to loose him.please help... Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 There is nothing worse than a partner who is overbearing and not so much a nagg but wants to know your every move, every day. To them, it says "You dont trust me", that may not be the case, but that is what you are communicating in a round about way!
Try not questioning him and his every move. Give him a bit of breather and a bit of space.
If your sister is correct and you are a little obsessed, you need to deal with it. Being in love with someone, means being able to trust them 100%, not having to wonder what they are doing and who they are with, because you trust them enough to know that they are not up to mischief.
Instead of questioning his every move, try not questioning and just ask the questions like, "how was your day today?", you will be surprised that most of the time they are quite open about what they did during the day. There isnt a necessity to ask all the questions and make him feel you dont trust him.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (15 June 2007):
 I think this question lacks a little detail as to more examples of how you are overbearing other than asking alot of questions. However, I am assuming you maybe feel a little insecure in the relationship.
The thing that you need to remember is that your bf chose to be with you for a reason, obviously he saw something in you that made him want to share his life with you and maybe the way around this is to try and keep that in mind and take a deep breath next time you feel that you are maybe being overbearing.
You should maybe also take time out to ask him how he is feeling rather than go on the opinion of your sisters. It's perfectly natural to be insecure and it doesnt make you a bad gf. Hope that helps. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Your sisters have a much deeper understanding of the situation than we can possibly have through just five sentences on the web. If they are generally kind to you, then try asking *them* more questions. The better you relate to them, the less dependent and needy you'll feel toward your boyfriend, which is a good step toward loving him well and truly too.
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