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writes:Ok.... well.... I've been dating my fiancee for a year now... before that I was in a very serious, long term, relationship of 7+ years... now, I am only 25, so thats a long time... Any way, It almost seems the weekend that my boyfriend of 7+ years and I broke up, I started dating this new guy (whom I am now engaged)... I have been cheating on my fiancee (whom I proposed to), and he found out... My ex got his number through my fiancees sister.. (thats a whole different story)... and they chatted and found out everything, at the same time... YES, i KNOW i was wrong for lieing to them, but I was seeing where my relationship was going to go with this new guy... So, my ex and I are still friends, but are not allowed to be, and my fiancee knows NOTHING about it... (he told me I am not ALLOWED to talk to him; obiously because of the cheating). However, my fiancee still is pretty much BEST FRIENDS with females hes had sexual relationships with in the past... (I have SO MUCH more to share on this story...) But I have to ask this first...Am I out of line saying that he can NOT talk to these chics that he considers "friends" that he used to sleep with?; When he is telling me that I can not talk to my ex-boyfriend, of 7+ years? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Both of them are trying to control you. Your first contacts the new guy. He took a situation into his own hands and proceeded to get you to go back with him or of anger. He shouldn't have. The new boyfriend must know that when two are together, there's no room for any new male or female, or old one's who enter, without confirming this with the other. He is doing what he pleases and shouldn't have talked so much to your 1st guys call. No wonder you are having problems. It's both of these men and not you. They are overpowering
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reader, \m/J.D\m/  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 thats very much double standards. you only dont want him talking to these girls cos he wont let you talk to your ex??? thats quite pathetic! my ex played used to chat to his exs and it drove me insane! difference was i never WANTED to speak to mine and i NEVER CHEATED on him so im not really suprised he doesnt want you talking to yours. at the same time he has double standards just as you do. as hard as this may be to hear your relationship is set to fail before its had a chance to properly start, perhaps if you hadnt cheated he would be more understanding of the emotional head Fuck hes putting you through still been close friends with his ex's. but you really should not marry this guy. it would be highly stupid. he will never trust you with any other guy whatso ever and you will be paranoid about him because your feeling guilty yourself.
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