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writes:im pregnant and i want to get an abortion ok... im not in the right place to have a child right now as i am at uni and i still have 2 yrs left!the tricky thing is my boyfriend is in the navy and hes just gone away, i know hed respect my dission but i feel like i shouldnt be bothering him with this problem while hes away i mean its stressfull for him enought with out having to think about my abortion! am i been nasty not telling him untill he comes bk or should i tell him?
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reader, Farris +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Definitely tell him.
There's absolutely no reason to even hesitate as you know that he'll support you.
It takes two people to make a baby... He deserves to know, and deserves to share the worry! Just because you're the girl doesn't mean you should have to deal on your own!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): You have to tell him because it is such an important issue and you will need his strength later when it is over. Make sure you get proper counselling before going ahead, not just a quick half hour at the abortion clinic. I know several people who went through with this and suffered huge emotional damage later. One after her baby was born, could not look in its face without thinking of the lost potential of her other unwanted child. Another lady I know has convinced herself that she will go to Hell. Another could not get pregnant later and blamed herself terribly. I know it sounds horrible, but you do need to really think this through not avoid going through it properly in your mind. It seems like there is not much time, but don't avoid it. Get a proper balance so that you can avoid feeling like them because although an unwanted baby seems like an inconvenience, other things may come into play which will make you think you had thought more about it at the time. Just so you know, I am not anti and hope I don't sound like it. I know there are some things you could delay and repeat in your life such as study, whereas this baby will never come again. Bless you and good luck.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 You are not being nasty flower,but if I was in your shoes I would tell him.Its best to be honnest so that if it ever gets out in the future,he cant go mad at you.
If he will stick by what you decide then get on the phone know.
I understand that you dont want him to worry but I think he would be hurt more if you dont tell him. Tell him that you dont want him to worry and that you have everything under controll but you just wanted to do the right thing by teling him.
I really do hope you are ok and please keep me posted. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): its his child so yes tell him. he has a right to know and it could ruin ur relationship if u tell him afterwards so he finds out u went behind his back without discussing it first
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