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writes:Hello, just wanting to know if i'm being paranoid OR if my feelings and thoughts could actually be true.K so. I'm three months pregnant with our second child, our first child is eight months old. We've been engaged for four months and together for two years. My fiance got a new job about two and a half months ago and since hes started this job hes been very irritable, and has mood swings that are all over the shop (and always taken out on me. Surprise surprise!) Now before he started this job he NEVER had mood swings, he was laid back, never got mad at me. We had an all round great relationship. I've confronted him about it and he seems to get defensive blaming it on stress from work and quitting smoking (he quit when we found out I was pregnant about two months ago) Now onto my paranoid or maybe true thoughts?Every day when he comes home from work, he talks about this woman, I'll call her Georgia. Hes always telling me how she knows how he has his coffee on a morning and has it ready and waiting for him when he gets into work, how they talk about everything and anything (and some stuff private too, like she told him she was buying pregnancy tests that day and thought she was pregnant. This seems like a private matter to me that you dont just splurt out to anyone) and a couple of days ago how they were having a playfight... It seems like every day he mentions her. "Oh Georgia did this, Georgia did that" Then when I confronted him about it so say, well do you fancy her then? He said NO shes ugly and fat. Well, I know I should have done this, but I went onto her facebook profile today (found her name on his work schedule) and she is NOT ugly or fat. In fact shes young, pretty, skinny and covered in tattoos (which is something he finds attractive) This angered me more. Why lie about the way she looks? I guess to make me feel better....She is married, and she knows hes engaged with children. But when did that ever stop anyone? So is this just pregnancy hormones sending me a little wild? Thank you in advance.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Hi ok yea well your right i would say he lied to you because he didnt want tu hurt you, coming off smoking and a new job can add a lot of stress to someone, and quittin smoking can cause awful mood swings. It sounds to me like he has just developed a really good friendship with this woman, he isnt covering anything up and he is telling you about her and how they are friends which is a good sign because if he was covering up there friendship then i would be more worried, but i guess you cant help how you feel.
Dont accuse him of anything just sit down with him and tell him you are feeling a little insecure about this woman and hopefully he will put your mind at ease, goodluck.
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