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*ljackson89
writes:My problem is with my boyfriend (at least I think he's my boyfriend). We met on an online dating site and hit it off very well. We texted every day and he even called me just to say hi. We went on a few dates and he asked to be exclusive, I said yes and took down my dating profile and went on with life. My problem is he hasn't taken down his site and still logs on even after I've asked him to take it down, he says he's too busy to do that. He's also stopped calling and texting. Even if I send a text he'll go days without responding so I only text him once a day to ask how he's doing. However, when we do talk and I ask about "us" he's very adament that we're dating and that he's been busy. We haven't been on a date or seen each other in over a week.Am I asking too much to be texted at least once a day by a guy who's supposed to be my boyfriend? Do I let this thing with him go and if so should I call/text to let him know it's over?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 hi
so you haven't been with him very long? i could say that he is cool coz he just wants to take things slow...BUT; the facts as i see them are this... he asked for exclusivity, he used to text more than he does now and see you more regularly and not leave it days before bothering to reply to your messages.
so it sounds as though he was well into you at first but now isn't. he wants you kept dangling though, or maybe he just hasn't got the balls to tell you that he lost interest.
he has still got his dating profile coz he is 'too busy' to remove it but yet he still finds time to log on??
if you are not that into him i would dump him now if i were you and no, i don't think you need to text him to tell him. if he bothers to question you as to why you didn't text him to let him know, just tell him you were 'too busy!'
move on. look at the relationship and ask your self if there was anything you wish you had done differently ie not text so much or not been too available, whatever and then you can do things differently with your next boyfriend. chances are this one is just a dud though and i think you are well rid of him to be honest!
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Get your profile back on that dating site immediately... if you can't beat them join them! He has a cheek to ask you to remove yours if he isn't going to do the same.However, my personal opinion is that he is just dangling the carrot and is probably chatting to other women on the site too. He says he is busy! What a lame excuse that is....He appears to find the time to login to the dating site, so he can't be that busy can he! We are never too busy if we are really fond of someone. We want to be apart of their lives, know they are ok and have contact with them as often as we can even if we do lead a busy life.As hard as it will be, don't text him, don't waste anymore time on him!
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reader, buffpuff +, writes (13 January 2011):
Unfortunately, no matter how much we may like someone, they may not feel the same way. Ask yourself this..if you were really interested in someone would you be treating that person the way he is treating you? Probably not. The last response had it right on point..read her advice and dont waste any more time on this immature individual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): if he hasn't taken down his profile from the dating site and he's still logging on, that means that you and him are only exclusive until he finds someone else that he fancies!you should probably either break up, or you put your own profile back up on the dating site and continue to look for other guys. Don't exclude other guys from your life if he's not excluding other women from his.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 January 2011):
Okay, you're worrying about the wrong thing here. Yes, texting or calling you once a day is part of the problem, but I think you have an idea that it goes deeper than that. Don't let this guy play you for a fool. He asked to be exclusive, yet he hasn't done the courtesy of taking his profile down AND he still logs on. HUGE red flag here. C'mon, it's pretty clear that he's still talking to other girls. How many other girls do you think he's "exclusive" with?
He takes days to respond to you, hasn't seen you in over a week, still logs onto the dating profile that he refuses to take down--I don't know what his idea of being exclusive is, but he's definitely not acting like he is. He's acting like you're something on the side, which is probably what you are.
Drop this lame dude. Put your profile back up and start dating other people.
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