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36-40,
*aria-consuela
writes:I met a man about a month ago at a party, he was a friend of a friend - and we instantly clicked.The first night we spent time alone we went out for a nice dinner, had a glass of wine and then sat down by the pier for hours talking and listening to the sounds of the ducks in the lake.We spent another 4 nights together in the next week. We saw a movie, drove to a small town to stay at a bed and breakfast and ate lots of great food - listened and sung to songs on the radio - kissed and danced and laughed - for hours.He is handsome (very), and kind - very motivated and ambitious. He is very comfortable with compliments, talking about the way he feels and is constantly telling me I'm cute, perfect - asks me where did I come from? etc.. We have spent alot of time together, and I truly enjoy his company - his energy is contagious - his kindness makes me feel special and comfortable.But now at this point I'm wondering if we took things a little too fast.I really like him, and I enjoy his company and to my credit - waited about 6 dates before it got physical - but it seems a little soon to be calling somebody "babe", or spending hours locked in a hug. Am I an "intimacy-addict", maybe yearning for something I lacked in a previous relationship, or could this be the real thing?I don't know if I believe in love at first sight. I know that a couple of great nights doesn't make a lifetime of romance - but I've never felt this passion, this excitement, this close to somebody - and it is still so early, so premature.I don't want to come off as jaded - I don't want to seem like I can't be open to a good thing - but I'm worried that I may end up falling for him because my heart is still being put back together and he is too good of a catch to be a rebound...Do I miss out on someone that I find so thrilling, exciting, and compatible - ? Or is there a way to continue with him and still be true to myself?Any help or insight is greatly appreciated!! Thank you!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 It sounds like you have met a great guy and no it doesnt mean that your addicted to intimacy, he sounds like a great guy and you never know it could turn in to the real deal.
Try not and worry about the future just enjoy every day and get to know him more, it sounds like you have both just clicked and therefore i dont think you are moving to fast.
As for falling to fast for him sometimes we cant help falling for someone, dont let what happened you in the past prevent you from falling for him. Just let it happen nobody knows what the future will hold but enjoy it on a day to day basis. Try and keep things level though still go out on your own with your friends and be independant.
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