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writes: My best (male) friend never goes anywhere with me. I invite him to my party every single year and he says he has no money and whenever I invite him somewhere else he says he has no money. Just to make it possible for him to come I invited him to go out with me to the river for the day and he said it would be boring just the two of us.At school he almost avoids talking to me in public yet he'll talk for hours on fb. And when I say hi to him he half smiles and walks off as if he's too embarrassed to admit he knows me. But he talks to everyone else and goes out with everyone else when they invite him. Why does he do this to me? I'm a little 'wild' and 'hyper' at school but it's the same with all my friends and I'm like that out of school. But I never thought I was embarrassing because all of my friends are like that. It's getting to the point he's actually hurting my feelings with it, I've confronted him but he doesn't want to hear it. He's the sort of guy that has to be right about everything. Am I an embarrassment to him? Why is he doing it to me? Thanks to everyone that has read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, I'm really glad you told me the truth and didn't just lie to make me feel better about it. I needed the honest truth and I figured when you first told me that I'd leave him alone for a while and see what he did. I didn't talk to him at all for a few days and he was almost begging me to talk to him, obviously I said hi when I saw him but it wasn't a huge 'hello how are you?' or anything, it was just hi and then I kept walking.
No joke, he made a huge scene in the middle of maths to get me to talk to him again, he spoke to the teacher before the lesson and then stood up and apologised and told everyone I was his best friend. It was really weird to see but it was good at the same time, but I'm gonna keep my guard up for now.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 I'm sorry to say but it does sound like he doesn't want to seen with you although he still wants to have you to talk to. It sucks that people are like this and there really isn't much that you can do about it.
It sounds like the type of friendship that is based on him talking to you when he is either board or needs someone to talk to. You are probably so nice to him but it might be best to not talk to him for a while and see if he actually misses you or not. If he doesn't then the friendship will fade away. It's tough but happens through life and new friends can always come up at any time.
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