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*inxie1313
writes:I have a problem, I love relationships, I love being in love but I have issues staying faithful and lying... am I a sociopath. I have been with this guy for 8 months and in this time we spent 6 months apart as he was working and I cheated on him with 5 guys one I slept with twice another for 2 weeks another i slep with for 2 months and the others were one night stands. I love this guy and confessed all he didnt care because I am with him now but Im worried about my mental health... i was sexualy abused as a child I have confidence issues but i am a very sexual person Help! I dont want therapy i have done well so far on my own
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reader, quarky +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Babe, u gotta get help - going it alone only works for as long as you can handke it-and it's not enough. I wouldn't spk to your b/f about it-only a proffesional can help and it wouldn't be fair to put that pressure on him. We all need to sort out who we are before we can have a true relationship with someone else IMHO. Qxx
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reader, shiraz +, writes (5 October 2008):
hiyahh. your past may have something to do with your behaviour now and its sad yet common now a days. you need to learn to control yourself, i dont think you are mentally unwell i just think you have sexual issues you need to deal with and im afraid its obvious you cannot do it alone so rather than thrapy why not get support from your bf sit and talk to him tell him how sometimes you scare yourself and the way you act is not really you.
if you let it all out to him not only will you feel relieved but hes now aware and you can reley on him and get through it together. be prepared some guys may not be able to accept the problem you have and im hoping hes not one of them but honestly you are not alone at all and you should never feel like you are.
im not going to tell you its all ok and will sort its self out cuz things like this take a lot of time and you need to prepare yourself to do what ever it takes to stay with just one guy and feel more confident in yourself.
Tackle one at a time the sexual side first and then the confidence by talking to your guy your gaining more confidence by opening up so your part of the way there.
you should be really proud for making yourself aware of this sooner and realising you have a problem that needs sorting. Everybody has a past and it changes the way you are as a person you need to focuson the future you need to keep positive. your not mentally ill, your just insecure and you need someone right now. i think you use men as a way of feeling loved and you dont need to do that whan you find the one.
i really hope this can help in some way and let me know how you get on i wish you the best of luck and any more help you need feel free to post another question (this is also helpping your confidence) you just need a boast so go for it stay in the right frame of mind focus on what it is you want and the harder you work at gettin it the more likely you are to achieve it dont fall at the first hurdle, youve handled a lot so far you can do this x :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Fade 878 is correct. You need to STOP dating and you NEED HELP a.s.a.p.
You are destroying yourself and those around you. Your love hate relationships are to hurt you and you need to stop this behavior.
You deserve Love and Caring, but you will not experience it whilst on this road of self destruction.
Please get help.
GOOD LUCK
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