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anonymous
writes:I am confused. I met this guy about two months ago online we exchanged pics and decided to meet up in a bar.After talking for about 7 hours about trying to find the right person suddenly it all happened we started snogging and then ended up back at mine and had the most amazing sex ever. Well we didn't have proper sex he started but then I said no because of the unsafe sex thing. So I guess u could say we just a 5 sex shag.It was just touching, blow job etc. but I did make him cum and he practically did the same to me. It was truly amazing.The next day he sent me lots of dirty texts saying he loved what I did to him and how he wanted to finish me off proper. Then I did not hear from him from a few weeks, then he asked me out for a drink and then kind of hinted at the fact he would like my georgous body again and I really turned him on. We didn't end up meeting but every two weeks since then he has asked me out for a drink and then always makes hints about how georgous my body is and if he could get his hands on it again. I have not gone yet, but he keeps asking. I have even told him I was seeing someone else as he left it so long calling me, but yeah it was amazing night together.I have never ever had anyone ask me out so much considering I have rejected him a lot. But he still keeps coming back. Do guys normally do this?? I have had one night stands before but no one has ever contacted me this much afterwards to recreate the night. Is this normal?I mean on the night it is not like we said we were going to go out and be in a relationship. But it was absolutely amazing, I really want to see him again but now I am worried that he just sees me as a sex thing. We only talked for 7 hours so he can not say he knows me and I know him and that we are meant to be together.It is confusing because we do not know each other, and the only thing we talk about is sex, but as we do not know each other it is only really are common bond at the moment and it was amazing (or am I just being naive). I mean you have to have both in relationship good sex and communication. I am being too naive to think that if we go have good sex it may lead to something else? I guess there is only one way to find out!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Hi there,
boy you must have a really low opinion of us guys.
We men don't think about sex only ( o.k. maybe 80% of the time:) but if I saw a girl and we had a drunken sex session and then she told me to cool it off till we got to know each other, I would respect that as I would feel I'm demeaning her by insisting on sex.
So you've found a rich handsome bloke who is obsessed with sex. Just wondering what type of guy you think he is - I'm sorry but if there ever was a personality type to match a chaser/hunter you have just described him.
I suggest you either tell him to take a hike or you meet up and have sex - the result will be the same you won't see him for dust afterwards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, it is difficult because he was not even being sleazy or anything the 7 hour before when we were talking. He was asking me everything there was possibly to know about myself like he was trying to get to know me.
Then all of a sudden after a few drinks it just happened.
I guess as we only just met I did not want to appear clingy and say lets be boyfriend & girlfriend after one night.
I did also tell him it was a drunken fling after he first called and we did not really know each and should meet on neutral territory. But then he just goes yeah but we had fun, it will be a bit hard to go back after that. This was about 2 and half weeks after the the night. Now he calls every 2 weeks he does not initially say lets have sex it is first a drink and then by the way your gorgeous and lets finish it off. I do admit I always tell him we did have a fun night, it was amazing and it would be nice but ...
This guy is gorgeous, got abs and everything, is rich and could get any girl he wanted.
I have had a few one night stands but no one has ever wanted sex so bad from me before and after two months can that be normal.
But aren't all guys like that though, if you have put out once they think if they meet you again, they are going to get lucky.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (28 April 2008):
Hi,
sorry to say but he is definitely only into the sex from the way I see it.
That is all he is talking about and with the unfinished business it has become an obsession with him. It can be like this for guys, but he is showing classic signs of the chaser here, and once he gets what he wants I dont expect you will seem him for dust.
In a way you have let this become all about sex, so you need to reset your priorities. Do you want just sex or a relationship? If you want the latter then ignore this guy, he is unreliable and simply only interested in you for one thing. Why waste time on him?
In the future let them know that you are not interested in having sex until the relationship has developed . You should be able to weed out most of the undesirables.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo definately not married, he keeps on asking me to his flat. I think that would be too difficult if he was. Why, do you think he is married?
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reader, anddrea +, writes (27 April 2008):
 you turned him on and by not meeting him its making him more keen to get with you again, i dont know if it will lead to anything more but hay if your both free and single why not go find out! as long as its safe of coarse!!
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