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writes:I've just turned 17.Me and this girl have been best friends for about 5 years. No exaggeration, she's absolutley gorgeous, she's a model, she's so funny and really genuinely nice. She used to say "Oh, I love you" (as a friend I persumed) which always made me strangly happy, and we used to be together constantly. She became really good friends with another girl now but we were still close.The thought of her having a new best friend got me really, really upset. A lot more upset than when breaking up with a boy. It freaked me out a little. After that, I started questioning my feelings for her. I have only ever been with boys, and haven't really found other girls attractive. But I'm not going to lie. I find her immensley attractive.Her 'new best friend' has dissapeared now, and we seem to be really close again, but my feelings for her maker it alot more different this time around. She hasn't been with a guy for about 4 years, but trust me, she could get any guy she wants, she just hasn't gone for any. We share a single size bed when we stay over at other's houses and I get the real urge to snuggle up to her and kiss her. It doesn't help that she's snuggles up to me and puts her leg over me, but she's just that kind of person so I don't know whether she means anything by doing it.Also, when we're drunk or at parties, we always dance together, like really close. When we finish dancing, I go other to the guy who I know likes me, and I kiss him because she puts me in the mood but I know I can't do it to her. I prefer dancing with her than any other guy I know.I've been in lots of relationships with guys, but I get bored of them really quick. I like a guy, and then once I'v got what I want from them, I don't like them any more.I've liked this girl for years though, AM I A LESBIAN? I appreciate anyone's help!
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reader, evelynsbabe  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hey girlie If you have feelings for her let her know. My best friend is gay and she also started having the same feelings for me that your having for that girl. I as well didn't have a boyfriend for almost 2 yrs and I knew my friend liked me as more then a friend but i simply dismissed it because I loved her friendship.I would spend the night at her house and hug her because I just felt close to her. Then she finally told me and I told her I would like to remain as simply friends but then I couldn't resist. I was the one to make the first move on her. The only reason I was scared was because I was afraid about what others would think. I dont care anymore I love her with my entire heart and she has made me the happiest girl. I can't picture my life without her. She is my best friend and my soul mate. I wish u the best of luck! =
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): I am in the exact same boat as you hun- literally identical, she's absolutely beautiful, so sweet, so funny, she always cuddles up too me and touches me and I want her so much it hurts. We always massage each other- like neck and back and legs and stuff and when I'm doing her she'll always say higher, higher on her legs until I'm really touching her an then the next morning we just don't talk about it. It's bit awkward or quiet or anything we just don't mention it. She's never done anything with girls besides like a drunk makeout but I've known I was bi since I was 13. I dont know what to do because if I address it then it might be awkward. But if I don't it just might kill me. :( confused
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reader, soon567 +, writes (30 October 2010):
No you're not a lesbian and I doubt your bi. Its her your best friend that you admire, adore, and you find her beautiful. Their no switch to turn gay on and of its either you like women or not. You think you're gay because she turns you on, but I believes you're straight. I talk to men women serving in the military and yes some admitted being turn on by other women as well men. You just want to take yours futher then most.
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reader, oliviababes +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Firstly let me just say its fine if you are a lesbian, i myself am, and everyone just respects my interests, secondly, how good a friend is she, could you imagine yourself in a relationship with her, if you can, you should consider expressing your feelings upon her, if shes a really good friend she will talk to you, really you can't keep hiding the fact from her, so yes i think you should tell her your feelings for her, and you never know, maybe she feels the same about you! good luck! ;) Oliviababes xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): Thank you very much. It's hard to believe that it happens to other people!
I'm going to have a good think and let some time pass before I think about speaking to her. We tell eachother everything, but this will obviously be alot different.
She's currently haven't troubles with eating disorders and I'm the one she comes to, to talk. So I don't want to put more pressure on her with this.
But thank you very, very much.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Ok well first of dont be so quick to judge or label yourself. You may very well turn out to be a lesbian but for now keep your options open.
It sounds like you have a very close bond with this girl and that is why your emotions are playing up and you are feeling things that are taking you by surprise but dont be worried as this is more common than you think. Girls your age tend to have these urges as they grow up as they are confused and unsure of how they feel it doesnt mean that they are going to be a lesbian its just that they want to experiment.
Now its up to you if you trust your friend enough to be able to talk to her and tell her that you are confused and how you are feeling, if she doesnt feel the same back and its just pure friendship for her then am sure she will understand and try and help you through this.
Just take time out to understand yourself and your feelings in my opinion you are probably straight it is just the fact that you love your friend so much that you have a close bond and you are confused.
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