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writes:I have recently heared allot about male feeders but I think I might be one too? However, I am female and I have a boyfriend of three years. I'll call him "John". He's always been skinny, and he tried to gain weight: for his own self esteem and for his health, as he only weighed 8 stone and was unhealthy. Personally love slim lanky built men, but I also have fantasies about John being fat. Thankfully he has recently put weight on and he looks so much healthier and happier. He is still slim, but not skinny and I am so proud and happy for him. However, recently he has developed a pot belly (be it a small one as he is still slim) and I love it! (a bit too much..)I don't want him to change at all as I love him for who he is, but I can't help these fantasies I have about feeding him or him getting fat.I wouldn't want it in real life, but it is kind of bothering me, as I have never told him about these feelings. I fear it would frighten him away, despite the fact I wouldn't atually do it in real life. I know everything about him, and this is the only thing I feel I can't share openly with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are right, its more the fantasy, but I am repused by fat people in real life. What you say is probably right, it will probably stop eventually.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 December 2010):
 I dont think you are an actual feeder - you say you dont want it in real life, and you are attracted to slim built men, therefore you cannot be a 'feeder'. Feeders are attracted to obese people, and want to make them bigger.
Look, there is no need to share this with him - he will have loads of fantasies he would never tell you (hence why they are fantasies - not something that should ever come true!). So just forget about it, it is fine to have this as a fantasy but it is pretty meaningless and harmless so there is no need to act upon it.
I think your feelings are just tied up with his health, happiness and comfort - he obviously has wanted to put on weight so you have shared that ambition for him for a while now. So it is deeply embedded in your head that he wants to be bigger, so you are just sharing in his pleasure in gaining weight. I think you would actually be massively turned off if he became obese and you would not find him attractive if he was severely overweight, so these feelings are just linked to what he has been trying to achieve over the last few years.
Hopefully now he has gained a little weight and he is happier then weight wont be such a big focus in your lives, and it will stop being such a priority. Therefore when the conversations stop about his weight, and when he is no longer so conscious of it - then I am sure your fantasies will lessen and you wont think about it so much!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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