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writes:My girlfriend has these hits of feeling bad, and she makes up depressing things in her head and then converts them to reality and gets really shitty about it and then ends up taking it out on me.So I try to ignore it, and it usually works. But she keeps going and making me feel worse and worse until I say/do something or start sucking up to her. Is this attention seeking behaviour? And if so, what can I do to prevent it? Like, so I'm not affected by it? Because I'm sick of feeling bad due to her feeling the need for "control". Any help'd be appreciated, thanks. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe feels bad like, she'll feel fat for eating ANYTHING and take it out on me, or she'll think she's a "bad person" when in reality she isn't but she'll then take that out on me also.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 You don't go into too much detail about exactly what it is she says and does although I suspect it may be attention seeking behaviour. It's also a possibility that she has some mental health problems in which case someone should speak to her about seeing a doctor.
Is she like it with other people or just you? If it's just you then yes, probably attention seeking. As for how you can prevent it, you need to stop paying any attention to it at all! When you eventually give in she knows she's won. Ignore it competely when she acts this way but make sure you call, text and meet up at other times. She's probably insecure but this way she'll soon learn she doesn't need to stoop to these levels to get your attention because you're going to be around for her anyway.
Oh and one more thing, talk to her! Tell her how bad she makes you feel when she behaves this way. If she cares about you then she'll want to do something about it.
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