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writes:Hey, ive been with quite a few guys (i started very early) with my first bf at 10 - we were more just mates with the occasional kiss on the cheek to show off to other mates. i then moved on to this boy who i was seeing for a few weeks and then he dumped me. then asked me out again then dumped me. a pattern began to appear actually so i finally said no (god knows why i stayed with him in the first place but i was 12 so to me it was a vital ingredient to my survival to have a boyfriend) there were a lot of drunken nights out where id meet a boy, talk, kiss, do some stuff with him (sexual) and never hear from him again. i kept being used like this. i felt down and started to drink on my own at home (my dad left when i was 8 and my mums talking about having me fostered, adopted or just put into care - she doesnt want me anymore. i dont care for her though so I'll be fine i guess. "/ ) ive been used so many times and my life wasnt worth living. my friends dropped me but i decided i didnt need them as long as i had a drink in my hand. my life has always been totally pointless. any way, i met this boy a year ago and we've been together a few months. i feel like i love him millions and i know he does too. anyways the question i came on here to ask is becausue of my diffiuclt life, does that mean that unconsciously i will be trying to make conflict with my boyfriend to make drama like ive been used to? Thats what i was wondering... and also how do you tell if you're in love. cheers, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys; i havnt been on this website in ages, and i have to say im really proud of myself. I dont drink atall and im still with my boyfriend and have been for 8 months.
Since I wrote that, i began skipping school and my grades went down soo much. I turned my life around COMPLETELY. Ive alreasy taken three gcse's which ive revised really hard for and im hoping for a c in them all (: :S. Thankyou for your answers (: this website's really great! 3
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 January 2010):
Sounds to me like it's more likely that you're searching for someone to just love you, rather then the conflict. To be honest, you need help. Drink will only kill you slowly, and those who do love you (like this guy), will have to watch you kill yourself. Seems to me like when your father left that you didn't cope well, and now you let guys use you because you want male attention, even of it means letting yourself be used. Then at the end of it you use the drink to numb the pain. I know you don't think you care for your mother, and maybe you don't. But maybe you do and you're just trying to hide the pain. Have you tried just sitting down and speaking with her and telling her you're in so much pain? Your life isn't pointless. At some point, a lot of people feel that way, and a lot go on to fix their lives. It's not easy, but you can do it. Just not alone. You need to come off the drink, because if you don't, your boyfriend will watch you die, and you will die never having known that there is a better world out there. Though it may not seem it. Talk to your mother, talk to a counsellor about how you feel. Anything that just means you can talk about how you feel and now that there are people who care, and that there you can make something of your life.
And you'll just know when you're in love. It's a feeling that can't be matched.
All the best. x
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reader, BGplusMC  +, writes (27 January 2010):
Hey OK you need to slow your roll your 13 to 15 and your drinking and having sex!? NOT GOOD! You need to focus on whats more important your realtionship with your mom and school ( God i hope your still in school). Theres been alot of drama in your life that I can tell so just SLOW DOWN you know its not mandatory to have a boyfriend. And you should work things out with your mom. As for when do u know when your in love you will know when, your boyfriend is the only one you see when you guys are talking, he does what will make YOU happy, and many other things. But I hate to burst your bubble but guys are not like that till there adults which is like 20 and up. Work on the realtionship with your mom not some boy. Right now i do see alot of drama in your life!
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