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reader, harrrry360  +, writes (1 May 2010):
i have a girlfriend and we have been out for coming up two years. i am still at school and just about to leave for college, and we're both going our different ways. but recently i have taken an interest to another girl who i have liked for a few years too, the only thing was is that i thought she was out of my league, but she likes me! i have been talking to her a lot via texting and msn and she always makes me happy. i cant wait to go home and talk to her. i know i dont want to because i love my girlfriend, but another part of me just wants to be with her. what do i do? it's driving me crazy just thinking of her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Wow your thoughts are just like mine. I have a girlfriend who is really nice but may be a little to selfish for me. I like my girlfriend, but our relationship is nothing but stress. I know another girl who is interested in everything i am and likes me too. I only wonder if this other girl is only attracted to what she can't have because i am a faithful boyfriend even though my relationship may be unhealthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Listen, if you begin to like this new girl talk to her and see if you have alot in common. If you dont then just forget it and stick with the one you love!
However, if you find your self even more attracted to this new girl because you realise she makes you more happy and you have alot in common then i think you should take it further.
Although you have to think of your current girl and her feelings. If you have made up your mind and want to start dating this new girl then gently tell her you've been getting further away from her recently and you want to be free again because you have alot of stress on your mind. I know that's a little white lie but it's the best way to NOT hurt her feelings.
However don't suddenly get with this new girl straight after breaking up because that will really damage her feelings. Leave it for a while untill SHE is ready to move on. During this time you can get to know this new girl a little better and get even closer to her.
Although if you realise she isn't who you initially thought she was you could always try to appologise to your ex and tell her how stupid you were. Chances are she'll forgive you if she really does love you!
Hope this helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): well if you loved your gf u wudnt need to think about that !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Damn man i feel your pain. Im in the exact same situation your in. I love this one girl but i dont think she loves me. i think she likes this other dude that her best friend broke up with and her best friend likes me. im really not sure what to do myself. Im so confused this sucks
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 January 2006):
 Tell your girlfriend you want the freedom to date other people as well as her. If she only wants a monogamous relationship then it's your call whether to dump her or not. You obviously, and rightly so, aren't ready to settle down just yet. There's no crime in that! Go have some fun!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (26 January 2006):
 You need to decide what you want. Are you happy with your girlfriend? Are you and she compatible, and do you make each other happy? Do you both have a similar outlook on life? Do you find that you're happier when you're with her than when you're away from her?
If so, then what you need to do is realise that, from time to time there will be other people interested in you, but that doesn't mean you have to respond. You can be flattered by the attention without doing anything about it. If you have a good, strong relationship that makes you happy, you don't abandon it, just because there's "something new on the menu".
If, on the other hand, you and your girlfriend are only together out of habit or convenience, or if you can't work through problems even though you've tried, it's OK to finish things and start a new relationship. It's important to do that in as kind a way as you can, and not to start something with someone new before you finish your older relationship.
Put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes for a few minutes, and think about how you'd feel if you were suddenly dropped for someone else. It wouldn't feel very nice; in fact, it'd most likely feel pretty awful. So be gentle with her feelings if you decide to break up, and don't rush straight into another girl's arms, because that's pretty insensitive. Give it some time after your break up before you start seeing someone new.
Remember that the grass isn't always greener, either. Just because you and the new girl seem attracted to each other now, doesn't mean that you're guaranteed to be a good couple. If you do break up something nice that you have with your girlfriend, you could end up regretting it.
These are some of the hazards of dating, and unfortunately, there aren't any simple answers for these types of questions. The best you can do is be clear on what you want from your life, make the best choices you can and treat others around you with the same care that you'd want from them.
I hope this helps a little.
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