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writes:I was cheating on my wife and "think" I left her to be with the other woman. Subsequently, things didn't work out with the woman I left my wife for, so she leaves me. Thus, I almost immediately begin thinking about my wife and all the good times we had together (completely forgetting all the bad times we spent together, but I digress ...). However, my wife found someone new, someone who is treating her the way she deserved to be treated by me and I am alone and scared and hope someone on this site can help me with these emotions/feelings. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
I think the sight of both women moving on from you has hit you because you're alone. There were clearly problems in the marriage, and clearly problems with this new woman. So my advice for now is to stay single and work on yourself. Work on your confidence, your esteem and such. Really just live for yourself right now. Then when you're ready, you'll meet someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): oops. we make choices and always foresee the true outcome.regarding yourself-try to learn from this. regarding her-let her live her life, and don't become a beggar with her. just leave her alone and let her be with her happiness.
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reader, kitty8199 +, writes (2 March 2010):
You made your choice. You chose to do her wrong, and you will have to suffer the consequences. But if you really do love her, let her be happy. If she is with someone who treats her the way she deserves, let her have it. Learn from your mistakes, and work through problems. Cheating only causes more, and the relationship with the "other woman", never works. Don't do it again, you've seen the hurt it causes everyone.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (2 March 2010):
You need to pick yourself up, and get on with life. Learn from this episode and put it behind you. You had the ability to have at least 2 women find you attractive, so there appears to be some hope. Work on yourself, then try a relationship... all it takes is time.
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