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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago and it really crushed me. We were really in love and distance and other circumstances kept us apart. Even after the break up we almost got back together and she confessed her love for me but due to other reasons like it being too hard long distance she was unwilling to get back together. We've been talking once ever few weeks and recently she sent me an interesting message that kind of showed she remembered the good times from our relationship. A few weeks prior we were kinda hostile when we had our final closure, so the message reassured me that she still had some feelings (it was a message of our love song when we dated from a concert). We were going to catch up for the first time in a few weeks but we were too busy and had other stuff going on at the time. A little over a week ago she mentioned she was going to call me to catch up but was too busy with school. Now here's where I don't know what to do... a member of my family got very sick and almost died (heart attack) and I haven't told her. It really got me thinking and viewing life a little different. I haven't told her about it yet and didn't know the right way to do it. I thought even though the situation isn't that great between us I really wanted to tell her what happened and that I love her. Almost losing someone so close to me really scared me and now I have a very different outlook on things. What do I do?
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reader, kerrykinsx  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 You should tell her , maybe put your feelins into a letter , explain whats happend ect. the worst thing that can happen is she dosnt feel the same but least you wont have any regrets. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Go for it bro, but realize you will be crushed if she doesnt reciprocate.
If she doesnt feel the same way, do not hesitate one instant in cutting off all contact for at least 2 months, otherwise you wont be able to move on. You need to be clear cut and decisive in your next actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I think you already know... tell her how you feel? Here's the worse case scenario: She doesn't feel the same way and you at least have no regrets. If you don't tell her, you may end up like me. I never told the love of my life how I felt after we broke up and he ended up marrying his "rebound". It's been 10 years and I still have a deep remorse for not telling him how I felt. Maybe we wouldn't have made it but at least I would have given it my all. I say, go for it.
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