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writes: ok so i've been with my guy for just over a year and we've been really close and everythings been great, but lately we've been getting bored, not with each other but just with what we do. (which to be honest is not much)We see eachother enough and im very happy in this realationship, and i think he is too. But lately, all we do when we see eachother is play fight or watch TV. Neither of us have any money to go out so we jsut sit around eachothers places doing nothing. This is getting really boring. And i dont want him to feel this too badly because im really paranoid he'll assocaite seeing me with sitting around being bored, then he wont see me and we'll end up breaking up. So thats the bulk of the problem, but now a minor one, on Friday night im trying to plan a perfect night in for me and him, candle-lit dinner and everything, (because im having a party the next day, and want him to myself for a bit too) but how do i prevent the perfect night in from becoming boring? Please help.
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Try going to museums - they are usually low cost or free and it gives you something to discuss afterward. Have a picnic. Play 20 questions. Do mad libs or crosswords together. Start a story with one sentence and let him do the next sentence and so on and write down the whole thing so you can read it from the beginning when you are finished. Draw pictures of each other, no matter how bad. As far as your night in goes, if you don't do the candlelit dinner every night, then it should change up the usual. Just follow the other suggestions to spice things up. I am sure if you are planning on having a party the next night, then that should liven things up a bit and I am sure he is glad to spend time alone with you, too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2006): Go for a walk somewhere nice - do you have a lake or a botantical garden nearby - a walking track etc.Pull out some old board games - twister is hilarious - especially strip twister or after a few drinks.Why not invite some friends over - get everyone to bring a bottle and a plate and have a games night - truth or dare or something.Have a footy or sports night - invite people over - have a sweep "who will kick the first point" "who will be best on ground" etc - again its cheap if everyone brings a plate. When you want to be alone - think about a project you can do together - read the same book and enjoy it together, do a jigsaw puzzle (may sound boring but it can be fun doing it together) grab an atlas and talk about all the places you wish you could visit (you learn a lot about each other) - cook dinner together etc etcThere are lots of things to do when you start looking for them. Have fun!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (1 March 2006):
 Organise it well...you know, seductive music, sexy lingerie which could be revealed eventually through a game of strip poker...scintillating conversation (talk about your dreams and aspirations, talk together about what you both hope to be doing in, say, ten years time) an excellent dvd, and allow the night to then meander in its own way. Hopefully then it won't become boring at all!
Other times, how about going for a walk together? Playing a game of something together (I know scrabble and playing cards can be a bit boring but if all you've been doing before is play fighting and watching telly...) Find some common interests and discuss means of achieving them. Say, for example, you both like going to the theatre, discuss how to get the money together to go.
Open the communication channels and work together to make the relationship not boring but often just being together is enough to make two people happy.
I hope this helps.
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