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writes: my ex is with one of my mates now, and all though i dont won't him back cause he's a bad person, i still get horrible feelings towards her and stil think about him and its intefering with my new relation ship will this ever end? Reply to this Question
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reader, goodaz +, writes (22 December 2006):
goodaz is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx 4 the reasurance guys xxx
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reader, Chado +, writes (22 December 2006):
I agree partially with the above answer. It is true that this is jealousy, and perfectly normal. However I do not believe jealousy simply fades away. You have to choose to release the jelousy, or at least NOT let it show in the mean time until you can better release it. Your feelings for your ex may never fade away. Hopefully it doesn't. Hopefully you can expand your heart and love everyone in the situation with the way it is right now. In time, if you love all of them no matter who or what they're with, they may see by your Heavenly example that they are acting oh so foolish, by not also allowing you to love them. I do not mean to go out with your ex. I mean to learn to love everyone and all of their faults and even the situation itself. Release your anxiety and anger, cry it out if you must, but not to a point of depression, and open your heart toward loving everyone, even if they don't love you, even if they are not with you, even if they spit in your face. For real love is bigger and better than holding on to your ex. Release your attachment, and truly open your heart wider, wider than any of those around you. This is a difficult challenge, and has taken me 6 months, (well I am still working on it.) True love has no condition, NO condition. What we so often call love is not love at all, it is conditional and biased, and even selfish. This is not love. Love yourself, your new prospect, and even your friend. I can't tell you how. I can only tell you that we far too often take offence when that is really a selfish thing for us to do. Release and let go, open your heart, and maybe you'll grow to love the situation in the way that it was meant to be.
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