All of his exs are on facebook..should he delete them?

A female age 51-59, *zona72 writes:

My partner and I are having problems. Relationship problems.  We have been together nearly 10 yrs and have broke up once 2 yrs ago by his choice.  At that time he promptly married.  To make a long story short he decided he loved me again and wanted to be with me and left his new wife to live with me.  So here we are together again.  I am not blamless in this relationship.  We both have confessed to eachother hurtful things tho I did not cheat or intentionaly decieve as he did for quite some time.   So now we are trying to pick up the pieces and be together.  We have two children together ages 6 and 4.   He identifies his main issue with me as my anger with him.  He says I am always getting angry about something.  Its true.  My issue with him is trust.  I dont know how to believe he is sincere and why should I believe him now when he so easily lied to me before?  I do love him deeply.  I do want build a relationship with him again.  My most recent problem with anger is when I saw his Facebook page.  I am not on his friends list and he is not on mine.  It never really occured to me to add him.  Anyway he has every ex girlfriend I'm aware of and all ex wives ( 5 of them!!)  on his facebook along with his adult children and coworkers.   It really upset me when I saw all the exes there.  I thought it over before I said anything about it, caught me off gard that it bothered me so much.  I'm aware of all the women in his past and just ignore it for the most part.  This, I cant.  I make a concentrated effort to keep myself and our children away from any of that part of his life.  His other children are all adult and I dont see anything good that could come of my kids meeting them.  The adult kids show no interest in meeting.   I guess what it boiles down to is I dont want to be associated with "those" kind of people.  YES they are those kind of people.  I have small children and each of those women are not fit to lay eyes on my kids.  They cant say a sentance with out 3 swear words in it, no joke.  ANYWAY-  I told him several days later it really upset me to see he had those people on his friends list.  I made it clear I wasnt talking about his kids or direct family.  I reminded  him of how we had talked and he had told me he wanted to change his life and didnt want those kind of people around him any longer.   He didnt really have any explanation other than they are "just friends" he never really talks to.  So I asked him why not remove them?  I didnt get an answer to that, instead he made his profile completely private.   I remarked to him a couple weeks later that he had not made the right "fix" to his facebook and he looked at me with a blank look.  --  Am I angry for no reason?  Maybe I have put to much focus on this one thing because I have so much anger about the past....   comments?

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