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writes:I am completely confused. First off, I'm a 24 year old single parent. I have a 2 year old and have been raising him alone for a year and a half now. I've made a lot of friends, mostly male, over the last 3-4 years through work, and we've always been really cool. Over the last year however, I'm finding that all of a sudden my male friends want to have sex with me, even though the topic, or anything close, has never been brought up. I never give people the idea that that's what I want, and I really don't think I'm that attractive, especially to the point of being "irresistable." Truth be told, I was much better looking when they first met me, things have changed physically since then. So why is it that this keeps happening to me? I seriously have no clue! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, thanks everyone for your answers. Im kinda starting 2 believe those of you who said its only all of a sudden for me. Lately I've noticed that its probably true that male and female friendships are usually not simply that...sigh. Well, at least now I don't feel in the clouds. Thanks again everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I have to agree with below poster who says there isn't actually a true friendship between men and women. Women percieve it as such because they don't have sexual feelings automatically for a guy, because women have other conditions to consider. But for men, who solely get aroused based on looks, there is always something sexual in the back of their minds consciously or subconsciously. You can be very 'friendly' with men, or even friends on your part but there will always be that thing in the back of mens' minds on their part.
It's not all of a sudden they want sex with you, you're the one who's just finding it out - 'all of a sudden'.
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reader, Miguel Spain  +, writes (4 March 2009):
That's because friendship between men and women doesn't exist. There's always a sexual background. I myself never get close to women I'm not attracted to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): It could be that they saw you as off limits because you had a very young child, and now that your child is a bit older they don't feel that way. I know that sounds a bit warped but it could be why.
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (2 March 2009):
(1) Because they're guys; (2) it's not "all of a sudden;" you're just finding out about it now becuase they're getting more brave, and they think some other guy will beat them to it;); (3) it might be a contest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a trick question. For the most part, I ignore it when they bring it up. But there's one, he's the cutest thing lol. I might just take him up on his offer :-)
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 LOL ... well, in that case, enjoy the topic too then. Probably makes you even more attractive to them. (wink)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI meant the topic never came up in the past. It comes up a lot now lol.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (2 March 2009):
Positive feelings give off positive energy.
Perhaps even though you think you looked more attractive 2-4 years ago, at least physically, you may not shown any "accessibility" for a number of reasons. Physical appearance, however attractive it may be, but if the person was "closed" or a certain negative energy is shielding you, men would not want to go there.
Perhaps right now you have found a healthy balance in your life, and you are at peace with yourself. Hence the positive energy. Men feel now that you have no protective "shield" anymore, and thus are interested to go there.
When you are happy and content and comfortable about yourself, they want what you are having!
Enjoy life, but be safe!
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