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writes: I am a 21 year old single female and have a lot of guy friends. I just got out of a serious relationship so I am not looking for something real serious. My problem is that it seems as though all my guy friends are never interested in me, even though I may be interested in them, and constantly just want to hook me up with their friends. Why do they all just see me as some charity case and not as anything more to them. They all say that I am hot and a great girl, but then they just try to hook me up with other friends, instead of asking me out. What does this mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): It means that yes they think your sexy and hot and i bet they are tempted to make a move on you but they rule you out because you are a 'friend' to them and that's all they ever will see you as,they obviously don't want to jeapordise the friendship you all have so you must mean alot to them.
Whatever you do tho don't take it to heart because believe me they have good intentions.Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but it is friends that stick around,friendship is far more important.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I wouldn't feel worried about this hunny, they obviously just respect you too much to date you. They see you as a friend and nothing more. If they dated you it could damage your friendship. They don't see you as a charity case they just want you to be happy. By hooking you up with there guy mates they are doing you a favour because they know there mates are good people and that they will treat you good. So be honoured to have guy mates like that. You are very lucky
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reader, Nay920 +, writes (24 August 2006):
They may just see you as a sister or a just a pal they may feel the same way it just that they dont want to break your heart or have a thing with you than what yall going to do when its over just go back to being friends that could feel weird can you do that with one of them and then turn around and be there friend with out feeling crazy....Think about it.
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reader, danno75420 +, writes (24 August 2006):
Relationships that come out of friendships can be great, or potentialy devistating. If it goes well, you feel an incredible connection with that person, on both a sexual and an emotional level. Esspecially if you're close, this can make things awfully complicated earlier on in the "dating game" (IE: 20-Later 20's)
Chances are these guy friends of your's know you're not the kind of girl they can just hook up with and forget, and that scares them. No one ever get's out, with all their feelings being in the same place they were before the hookup.
You're still young. Have fun. Remember there's a HUGE world out there with plenty of possibilities and happiness.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 August 2006):
 These guy friends of yours are just that: friends. They value you so much as a friend, they don't want to jeopardise that by coming onto you. They don't want things to go wrong and for them to lose a friend they value so highly. That's a good thing! Maybe, at their age, they only want sex from a girl really and they know you're worth more than that so they don't put you through that?
You need to keep your friends as friends and meet some other guys to maybe become boyfriends. More often than not, once you've placed someone under a title in your life: 'boyfriend', 'friend', 'attractive', it's very hard to get rid of that title. So if you're just a friend to them, whether you're hot or not won't change the fact that they don't want to risk this by dating you.
Meet some other guys and keep your friends, they're much more important than a boyfriend will ever be. Good luck
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