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writes:Hey i knw am under age n all... buh am just having second thoughts... all my friends have done it. there's this guy at skwel a little bit older than me and we only started talking on msn..( as friends) then he mentions tht he wants so bad.. 4 the past year and he wants to take my virginty ... he says he dosent want 2 date meh, buh after he has had sex wiv meh ... n we will see if it goes any futher..my question is shall i do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): So, let me get this straight... you're thinking about giving away something as precious & valuable as your virginity to someone who doesn't even respect you?
That's like if you have a beautiful diamond. Its the only one in the world, its worth millions of dollars and if you lose it you will never have another one ever again. And some random stranger comes up to you, calls you a whole bunch of horrible things, then says, "Hey! Can I have that diamond?" Would you give it to him?
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reader, MichaelS2  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Don't do it!He's just using you!You have nothing to be ashamed of!I am 18 and a virgin!
Never let someone pressure you into sex!Sex shouldn't be something taken lightly and just had.You have to be ready and want it. Don't waste something special on someone who doesn't want you for anything other than your body!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): those are some very stupid reasons to have sex:1. all my friends did it :))2. he wants it soooo bad ... but just sex (and mayyybe if that goes smoothly something more ---- yeah right) :))
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (5 January 2009):
 You should not just sleep with him. The chances are that only a handful of your friends will have slept with someone, the rest just say they did as to not feel left out.Why would you want to just sleep with a guy for the sake of losing your virginity ?Save yourself and later on in life when they look back and regret it, you will have a clear mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): look im 16 and 'still' a virgin... but im proud of it and i plan on keeping my virginty for as long as i can, its something you can only give away once and its something that should be with someone who cares as much about you as you about them.
you know this is also called peer pressure, just because other people have done it long doesnt mean you have to too.
most of my friends have lost theirs, but they all have boyfriends who they've been with for at least a year, but just because they've had sex doesnt mean i have to have it too.
wait until you find someone who truly cares about you and im sure it'll be the most amazing thing, even though it may hurt (not that id know ;))
good luck, and dont let anyone force you into anything you dont want to do or dont feel comfortable doing.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 No, you shouldn't do it. And I highly doubt that all your friends have done it, people do lie about those things.
When you are ready to have sex for the first time you will know. If you feel this uncertain, it means you are not. Personally I also believe being 13 is far too young in any case.
You will want the first time to be more special than this. You will want it to be with someone you trust and who really cares about you, not someone saying he doesn't want to date you, but let's have sex and then see where it takes us. This guy doesn't seem to care one bit for you. I'm sorry to say that, especially if you like him, but that is really what it looks like.
Wait a few years and you will meet someone better, someone who cares and who can give you a much better experience of the first time. This msn guy definitely won't.
Take care of yourself honey, you deserve the best so be patient and wait a few more years. It will be worth it, I promise!
And don't believe everything your friends tell you :)
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reader, jeet  +, writes (5 January 2009):
hey are you nuts.
i mean you want to be involved in just casual sex,
why just because all your frenz have done it.
virginity is a very precious thing gift it to someone who is equally prescious to you if not more, gift to someone you will die for but more importantly he should die for you as well as n when the situation arises, and i seriously wish such a situation never arises.
trust me, being in love is one of the most blessed things in this world, dont spoil it by loosing your virginity to some stupid sex starved idiot.
take care. and make wise decisions.
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (5 January 2009):
Don't do it! He's using you! He's going to have sex with you then leave you. He's using you and if you're smart enough, you won't do it! You'll regret it. And just because all your friends say they have done it, doesn't mean that you have to, too! You should wait until you're ready and make sure that its with a guy that you Really love. Otherwise, you'll regret it. I hope you make the right choice and don't do it.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (5 January 2009):
don't lower yourself and have sex with this idiot of a guy. he obviously only wants sex, so he has no interest in you as a person. he just wants to be the one who can brag to his friends about taking your virginity.
wait untill you are older to have sex with someone who actually cares for you and wants to be with you.
your friends are probably all lying about having had sex, most young teens do so they can look cool in front of their peers. when the reality of it, is that they probably haven't.
remember sex is not a race, you shouldn't do it just because someone else has or wants to. first time sex hurts and is really uncomfortable. do you really want to worsen that by doing it with some sad boy who just wants to use you?
don't do it. you will regret it!!!!!!!
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