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writes:Hi I have a problem, I am a woman who works as an ops director for a firm. I started about six months ago. Since I started nearly all the staff walked out (one left) and they have all said it was because of me.I tell them all the time what I expect, I am a brilliant director and I know that they are all just jealous of me. I get upset when they are late to work and if they don't produce enough work. Anyway apparently I am the bad guy and now everyone has left. My MD is re thinking my position because no one is left.to top it off I just found out that all the staff know that I am on dating websites and things. its slightly embarassing. They give me no respect and I DESERVE respect I AM THE DIRECTORDo you think that I should just move firms or tell my MD my thoughts (they are all leaving because they are jealous of me and because they "cant work" with me becasue I have high expectations?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): I think you need to take a look at yourself instead of blaming others for the situation. It sounds as though you need to develop better management skills to get people's co-operation and respect. Who says they are jealous? It sounds like you might have imagined this.
Yes, speak to your MD. But be prepared as they may also have done so and you may hear some home truths you find uncomfortable.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I have to say i was slightly shocked to read this post, respect is not given it is earned, you sound a bit like my manager , she has a staff of nearly 22 people and as she constantly tells us "she is not there to be liked". Unfortunatly for her she has made enemies in high places so may not be around for much longer.
But do not be so sure when you say they have left because there jealous, you obviously have a very high opinion of yourself and perhaps thats the main problem.
I understand that everyone has tp pull there weight to make targets but there is away to treat your staff to make sure all targets are met. Have a chat with you manager or any staff memeber that you may have left they will advise you of your faults so you can improve the way you are towards your staff
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 May 2010):
You're not going to like my saying this, I know. But from the way you've written that post, I can see why they walked out.
"They give me no respect and I DESERVE respect I AM THE DIRECTOR!
That's a shocking way to look at your position and the staff. So what if you're the director? People aren't required to bow down on front of you. You're not God. My boss always used to think he was a great director, and he treated us badly. Naturally his company went broke and we all got screwed.
All your staff did not leave because they were jealous, as you'd like to think. They left because you were not showing them respect and they were unhappy. It works both ways. Treat your staff badly, and they will treat you badly and cause you trouble. That's what's happened and it has put your position in jeopardy. They get to have the last laugh. So if you want to keep your job and career, you need to start looking at how you manage. There is nothing wrong with having targets and expectations. That's what being a director is all about. I know. I am one.
But don't think you deserve respect just because you have a title. You don't. You want respect? Earn it. And do it quick before you're fired and you have a bad reputation and get sued for being a bad director. Staff quitting isn't jealousy. It's a sign that you're not good to work for. Look at yourself before you wind up looking like a fool when you're out of a job.
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