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writes:My husband admits to cheating with dozens of friends and family during our first years of marriage. He also lived with two other women while in the service and I was home pregnant. He got both of them pregnant and left them that way. I am finding it impossible to live with him. All he talks about is sex and the women he had. I say each and every time he had sex with every woman was cheating, not just the number of woman. My heart is broken but he won't shut up about it all. He keeps trying to make out that he was wronged because the women came on to him. We have been married over 40 years and all this happened in the first half of our marriage. I don't even know why he had to tell me after all this time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): You are right about him. Are you sure you wouldn't get anything in divorce?? I mean usually you will. And since this is not a no-fault divorce I would think that entitles you to more. I would talk to a divorce lawyer. This isn't right. In America the divorce courts are usually stacked in favor of the women which sucks for honest men who got tangled with horrible women for wives. So in the case of obviously at-fault husbands I don't see how he would get off not having to pay you anything.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Kick his dumb cheating ass to the curb. And divorce his crummy self and then, ENJOY your life and live it how YOU see fit.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 April 2012):
 I recommend you call up a women's shelter for assistance. They often have someone they can direct you to for a free legal consult and from there they can help you out. This is emotional abuse. You are captive to a sadistic narcissist and you need to get out. The women's shelter can give you some direction on how you can get help leaving without becoming completely financially ruined.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): I'm sorry, I didn't tell why I am stuck here. He is disabled and none of his income can be attached. I am disabled but I haven't worked in to many years so I quailfy for nothing. The income and health insurance comes from him. Both health insurances. One, a lawyer could force him to continue, the other goes with a divorce.I would be destitute. When I am old enough for SS, I will only get $150. a month.I also didn't know any of this until recently. He was a slimy bugger and cheated right under my nose with my girl friends and relatives where I did not look. He didn't go out picking up women except when I worked nights for a couple of years. He also had sex with my sister, my cousin and another close relative..that I know of.He doesn't exactly talk about his conquests but he talks about sex all the time. Every word in the world can remind him of something sexual and often he refers to one of those women to make his point. I have told him to just shut up but he won't.I have no family left, I have no friends who could help and I haven't a dime to my name. Anything extra we ever had he used for booze, drugs and cigarettes until just a year ago. That's when his conscious woke up and several months later he told me all this stuff.I have intimate knowledge of homeless and abused women shelters as a friend lived in one. With nothing to her name after her divorce, she remarried and died a year later, in all likely hood with the help of her second husband who benefited through insurance policies he had on her. I am not jumping from the frying pan into the fire.I know I should throw him out. I have consulted a lawyer and I also know I can't touch his income. I am entitled to nothing. All I know I can do is start stashing away anything I can without him knowing.I do have questions. I know he went with about two dozen woman. I know there are only two children unclaimed out there. The rest he had a vascetomy before he went with them. He claims he only cheated two dozen times. I say he cheated each and every time his preformed sex with any one of them. Meaning it was probably more like 100's of times. If that's the way I feel, am I right? And not only did he physically cheat on me, he mentally rapes me every time he mentions it now. Am I right?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 April 2012):
I'm surprised you are still with guy and even more surprised you have been with him this long.
My guess is he is telling you all this to provoke s reaction. Well the best reaction would be to leave him.
He clearly has no respect for you or your feelings.
I wouldn't put it past him doing it so that you would leave him as he hasn't got the guts to leave you.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 April 2012):
 One question for you - why are you still with this pig of a man?
Dont you think he has hurt you enough with all his cheating? Yet here he is, rubbing your nose in it, telling you about his disgusting affairs. He is an awful, vile man and doesnt deserve you.
Find some stregnth within you and leave him, and never look back. There are plenty of men out there who would never dream of treating a woman like this, he is an awful human being and you can do so much better. Dont settle for this, I know you have been married a long time but dont accept that this is your life, you will be so much happier without him.
You should have dumped his sorry ass a long time ago, so do the right thing and walk away now. Life will be so much better without this awful man, get rid of him once and for all - he will have to find another sucker to brag to about all his conquests.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 He's a horrible jerk, a creep of the worst sort. I'm sorry for being so harsh but I really think he's bad for you. Please consider divorcing a man who's not only a cheat but also an insensitive, cruel and callous person! No one deserves to be with such a person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): You need to leave him. You realize there are an unknown number of young people out there who are his children but not yours right? All the lives he's ruined and he says he was wronged? You need to divorce him because you have nothing to gain but misery and loss of self esteem by staying married to him.
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