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writes:I have a bf... He was here before... But now is in another city for studies...i Trust him... We Dnt have Any kind of problems... He's also ready to talk to his parents abt us after both our education is over.... But whenever he comes down to meet me... Or sometimes even while talking on the phone... All he talks abt is ***.... And when he meets me... Gropes at me...i Dnt really mind it... But wanna know ki... Does he really love me... Or is it Just lust? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Not to sound like a jerk, but "surprise surprise" that all the "It's gotta be lust" comments are from women. Ladies, take it from a man, we love sex (Let me finish) with the person we love. I know it's a hard concept to grasp, but bare with me. When a guy has a long distance relationship with a girl, and he finally gets to see her, he's gonna want to grope, grip, and canoodle. He loves you (or at least cares about you if you haven't been dating long enough to be in the love stage).
As for talking about sex on the phone, it's the same thing. He doesn't get to be with you, and so his mind wonders to sex (probably throughout his day), and he wants to get those thoughts out with you. I think he can love and lust after you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 November 2012):
 Sounds like lust. no doubt.
It's not that you can't lust after someone you love, but you would want to have conversations about what really matter as well as sexy chats.
When you say grope - I think Ick! But what exactly do you mean? is it he can't keep his hands of you or does he only go for "certain" areas? Also when you say grope, it feels to me like you aren't exactly keen on it. If not, then you need to tell him. You need to set limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Generally I associate lust with people who pursue others for sex just based on a physical attraction. This guy is your boyfriend, its natural for him to want sex with his girlfriend.
However, I'm thinking of a few factors to help me sum up this situation,
- How long have you been together?
- Have you even had sex together yet?
- How often do you have sex together?
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (1 November 2012):
 its probably lust. I mean why else is he busy talking sex all the time.maybe his just too horny for you.try and change the topic when he gets too busy talking about that
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