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*arah101809
writes:Well my boyfriend and i have been dating over a year now. We have been living together 8 months and latley he has been treating me like a pice of (you know what)!! We are supposed to be getting an apartment together soon and we have been visiting his parents a lot lately and all he does for hours is play xbox with his brothers and dad and when i ask him to spend a little time with me he gets annoyed and treats me bad. His mom got him a xbox for xmas so he can play xbox live with his brothers and dad when we get an apartment and so i knew then and there that our realtionship was about to get a lot worse... I even asked him if he got a xbox and after his long day of work if all he would do is play it and he said yes. what should i do!! i seriously need help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 December 2010):
 Decide what you want and set some ground rules. Any major step in a relationship should be accompanied with clear expectations about what that step means. Keep in mind, in order for a relationship to work, compromise is essential so you cannot give him the "my way or the highway" line.
Tell him how it makes you feel. Relationships take work from both sides, and maybe he needs to be reminded of this. I also don't think he may be mature enough to handle this conversation, so good luck.
Here's another person in a similar boat: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-has-no-motivation-unless-hes-playing.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): Sounds like you two could use a few compromises! Its okay!!
Here--- Perhaps try to set times with him for when he can play and when you guys can spend time together. Plan things out.
Suggest an activity for you his dad and brothers to all enjoy together. Could even be a place to eat at.
If he's not lookin' to make time or even have any motivation to be with you, chances are this guy isnt ready for a relationship and he's just wanting to do his own thing. Good luck :)
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