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writes:Me and my best friend are both 14, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I took a test 3 times and it came back positive all 3 times. I know I have to tell himbut I don't know how. :( I know he will stick by me.How should I tell him I'm pregnant?
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (10 November 2010):
Wow, I am really proud of you. Just like you told him. You guys have sorted it out first and that is fantastic
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reader, petina1 +, writes (7 November 2010):
 Arrange a time when you can speak to your parents and get their full attention. You may be able to all come to a compromise, but let them know you have spoken about it and decided what to do about it. You could also go to an advice clinic if you need further help on what is going to be a very vunerable time for you both. Good Luck
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reader, Horserider96 +, writes (6 November 2010):
Horserider96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've told him and we have both decided not to have an abortion, but we are considering adoption,How should we tell our parents
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reader, Msslbs  +, writes (6 November 2010):
you are a kid, not suppose to be having sex in the 1st place, the boy wont stick around love he a kid himself n sience he had fun with you he probably on to the next rite now. best talk to yo parents they will help you out in the best way possible..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): he will not stick by you. he is a teenage boy. tell your parents and discuss your options with them. yes, they will probably be angry that you slept with someone at your age, but they will do what's best for you because they love you and they're your parents. he, however, will not have your best interest at heart. he can't even get a job and support you or the child. it's unrealistic to think that you could actually keep and raise the baby.
like i said, talk to your parents. if not your parents, an adult that you trust. this is not something you need to keep for fear of being in trouble. you need to go to someone and get the help you need.
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reader, cheekyfriday +, writes (6 November 2010):
Is it a stupid question to ask you if you are going to keep the baby?
Are you going to discuss your options this with him?
Wow, to fall pregnant on your first attempt while trying to prevent it, has really put you in the deepend.
I agree with blurting it out. Obviously he is your friend so you see him alot after school. Do it than.
You have to remember this is a boy is a male, so you need to not be so sure he will stick by you full-time. Plan for the unexpected. This is mostly your responsibility. Do you know what life path he is wanting to follow? It would be sad if he wanted an education and had to pull out of school to get a job. It would be just as sad if you gave it up for adoption and had regrets.
I think it might be a good idea if you can find other young mums to talk to so you can see exactly what you are about to face, and do it quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): First tell your parents.
This is how you should tell him... "i have to tell you something very important. I took 3 pregnancy test and they all came back positive. You are the father, i know that for sure. I wanted you to know...because i think you should know." and thats really all you can say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): tell your parents, together, first. They are the ones who will have to support you the most.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Well you need to tell your parents too. Why don't you tell him at his study tomorrow, tell him you need to talk about something pull him aside and spill the beans. Or quietly, show him the pregnancy test, if it's not a digital one. Next tell your parents over dinner, just blurt it out. They need to know so they can help you decide what to do. Whether you're going to keep it, or if you're going to get a abortion or up for adoption. Hopefully, they'll support you financially seeing as you or your friend can't get a job. Lastly, there's government aid but I'm sure you have to be of legal age of consent to apply, which you are not. Good luck to you!
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reader, Horserider96 +, writes (5 November 2010):
Horserider96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand, but I don't know how to bring it up. I'm going round his to study tommorow, how should I tell him then?
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
You are going to need all the support you need. First of all, just take the bull by the horns and tell him. The thing that you should be worrying about after that is telling your parents. I'ts not easy being a parent and when people say it is the hardest job in the world they arent joking. Children can make or break a relationship up. You have other options to explore as well. Children cost a lot of money, are you going to be able to provide for the child or are you going to let someone else take that responsibility. You need to get this out in the open if you decide to keep the child because you are in for a long long journey in your life. Good luck x
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