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writes:hi guys.. ive recently had a baby shes 3 months old and such a good baby. Me and my partner want a large family but not sure how much of an age gap to have between our kids. id like them close together but dont know if id cope. is it harder having small age gaps or big ones? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): My brother and I are four years apart, that might be too much of a gap. When we were kids I was expected to look after him and felt like his mother half the time, my parents were always nagging me to 'look out for him' 'take your brother with you' making me take him to school or with my friends etc. All the important growing up stuff that I had to figure out completely by myself, my parents and brother just expected me to help him out just because he's younger. I can't pretend I haven't resented it but having said that, now that we are both a bit older the age gap doesn't seem so bad and we actually get along quite well.
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reader, ms helpful +, writes (1 March 2011):
my first reaction would be when ever your ready.
my second reaction would be 2 years max for a difference , i don't mean to be rude but when they grow up the age difference would be weird if its far apart and you have more than 3 kids e.g if there was a 1 year old and a 10 year old and a 12 year old ... a 12 year difference is really far apart
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): me and my brother are 12 years apart im 15 and hes 27 nearly 28 i have never felt that close to him growing up because of the age gap. i love him and he'd do anything for me but we're at different stages of our lifes so will never be as close as say somebody born a year apart. i can only offer you my experience but i would think it better to have the children closer together but im guessing it would be harder work
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reader, lovelyeyes  +, writes (1 March 2011):
My kids r 14 months apart,and I loved it. It was kind of hard but your already dealing w/lack of sleep,diapers and bottles so u might as well get that part done with. Kids love to have another child to play with. Now my kids r 6 and 7. Now when we go to fairs they sit on rides together they play sports together they have double the friends. It was scary @ first but I'm glad my kids r close in age. My sisters kids r 6 yrs apart and she says she doesn't have the energy for it and she wished she had them closer in age.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (1 March 2011):
Hi,
My kids are 1 year and four days apart...He's 15, and she is 14 now. I love it and they do as well...very close friends.
Was it hard? Yes...two kids in diapers is not easy. Was it worth it? Oh yes :) Potty train was very easy for the second child, who copies everything the first one does. That can be good and bad depending. :)But if you make the first a good leader, the second child just followers along.
My daughter had really sensitive feet, and would not put her feet on the ground to learn how to walk. But she wanted to keep up with her brother,and he would call her to play. Finally, she learn to walk on the tips of the toes. Her heals never touching the ground. But she was so determine to keep up with him, she walked. Little things like that are the blessing I remember. Because every body was talking about this docotor and that speicalist to help her walk.
The draw back...the copying :) You go through the terrible two's four time. First child does, then the second child copies the first. When the second child starts their terrible two phase, the first child copies the second.
As much as it is tiring...it's worth it down the road, especially for homework,and school. One set the way for the other, friends are mixed, and the first child can help the other with home you may not understand. Plus, if you have two boys or girls, the hand me downs will still be in style :)Save money :)
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