A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I met a girl.... I'm not yet emotionally overcommitted but i seek your wisdom.. before i begin to allow those sorts of things to buildI'm separated.... and most women ive dated have been my age, almost all of them. I have had a few flings with some gals aged 30/32 but, recentlyI met a lovely gal, who is 24yo. I am in my late 30's - and well its true i behave like a 12 year old and i look like a 29/30 year old - I wonder if its worth pursuing this.I am not having a mid life crisis, let me just get that out there. I would not have pinged this girl (met her online, via a local expat forum, not a dating site) - except her bio was interesting and her photo placed her closer to 30 initially - and when we started to get to know each other there was definately an absense of 'oh my god like totally want to see the new xmen movie, hes so hot, like'...so that said, let me just say, shes quite genuine, mature, funny, sophisticated-for-her-age, open, spontaneous, did-i-say-funny?, and obviously gorgeous -- I feel like i might be getting a second chance.. (altho devils advocate in me suggests, im trying to steal someone elses first chance??)So far im not committed in an emotional way, ive not even kissed her (been on a single date) , altho we have talked on the phone sometimes up to 4/5 hours at a time in the past 4 weeks (She lives outside of town) - in fact, the tone of the relationship thus far has taken to a higher planeNormally, i wouldnt have any qualms about seducing her (if she was up for it of course) - I mean who wouldnt ! - however we have connected on some deeper levels and talk about things that are frankly a) taboo!! in new relationships (aka relig-- well its not religiosity, but rather just honest-to-good-ness-God-Talk) and b) and things which are way more to do with feeling a trust/connection with eachother , and dare-i-say it ... 'soul _ _ _ _ _'I appreciate that a guy may pick the girl, but the Woman is the one who does the 'choosing' .... with that in mind, if its not a big deal to her (age gap) _- should it be a big deal at all?I'd like to hear from all three sides if I maya) gap couples that find it successful (given maturity of the younger one, and youthfulness of the older one)b) gap couples that didnt find it worked outc) arm chair critics alike peace out, Reply to this Question
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female
reader, Deathly-Afraid +, writes (4 July 2009):
 You know my parents are 18 years apart but my mom is not a gold digger when my mom met my dad he had 40$ to his name. My mom found that my dad my have been older but he was more mature than those men the same age as her even though he acted like he's perpetualy 17 but he had a mature side to him. Women want acctual mature men rather than boys. I know I'd rather have a guy who's older but wiser than the man who acts like a boy. And with time my parents forgot they even had and age gap, Love is love age gap or not.
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