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writes:Hello! So its my 14th birthday today, and this boy I am seriously in love with turned 17 exactly a month ago. I've liked him since I was 11, and I met him at school. He added me on Facebook when I was 11, and ever since we've been speaking every night (I'm 14 now), texting all the time, and so on. I was pretty sure he wouldnt feel the same, but I started to really like him pretty quick. My friends think its crazy, but I think its only because they don't understand what its like to be in love with someone. I know I sound silly saying that I am in love with him, but I swear to God I am. He was the DJ for my 13th party, and I just remember the whole night was full of eye contact between us! I told him I liked him in January (it's now October) and ever since he hasnt really spoken to me, and when I try to start a conversation its a bit awkward and I can tell he doesn't want to talk to me. So I've stopped trying.. But he left my school to go to College and the other day he was standing outside school, leaning against his car (swoon!) and he looked at me a few times but he didn't say anything to me. I can't stop thinking about him and I really want to be with him forever- I'm just a little bit scared of the sexual part in the relationship as I really, really don't want to be forced into 'anything', but I'm sure he's not like that. I am so in love with him, please help! Thank you :)
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reader, barbiieworld14  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 iim goiing through the same thiing....ii myself iis fourteen nd ii love thiis boii that iis eighteen.....we make eye connectiions or whatever butD we never speak...etc.....ii thiink you shud move on cuz he prob dnt want to go to jaiil fhu no liil kiid....iits gne be very hard beliieve me.....yhu shud fiind someone else....iits yur choiice do wats rhiite fhu u
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Ok well hunny it sounds like this guy doesnt want to have a relationship with you. So you need to concentrate on getting over him he is away to college now and he probably doesnt want a relationship with a 14 year old girl, i no this is harsh hun but its the truth since you told him you liked him he has been avoiding you as he doesnt know how to deal with your feelings.
So you need to try and get over this fella, dont worry you will love someone else just the same if not more when the time is right, but for now you are both at different stages of your life so you need to keep yourself busy to stop yourself thinking about him, hang out with your friends maybe start new hobbies and activities.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Oh dear..I'm going to address the sex part. You are underage to consent to sex, he is of legal age. If you two were to tango in bed then he can be charged with statutory rape and sent to jail for quite a while.
You remind me of Molly Ringwald in Sixteen Candles, walking outside of her sister's wedding with Jake leaning against his hot red sports car. Anyways, probably don't know who that is..and trust me it doesn't happen like that in the movies.
You told him you liked him in January and it's now October with no word from him, then sorry he's not into you. If the boy likes you then he will be talking and flirting with you..or even asking you out because you broke the barrier and told him you liked him. Sorry darling, but he's just one of those unattainable crushes...I had a couple of those in high school, nothing you can do but fantasize about him in English class.
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reader, Just Saying +, writes (19 October 2010):
 At 14 it is hard to say that you are in love with someone and that you want to be with that person forever. There is a three year difference that does not seem like much but when the age is 14 and 17; you might as well have said 14 and 25. Remember that he will be 18 in a year and you will then be considered a minor. For right now just focus on yourself and your happiness with your friends and enjoy life to the fullest.
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