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writes:I was with this guy who was 3 years younger than me. Dont get me wrong, the age didnt matter to me. Anyways, we were happily together for a very long time. My family didnt seem to like him much though. They did the impossible for me not to be with him. He tried his hardest for them to get along with him but they just never approved because they believed the rumors that were going around about him. To make my family happy, i went against my own heart and left him at a time when he needed me the most. Later on i went into a relationship without feeling anything for them thinking that i would move on but i could never seem to forget about him and how wrong it was for me to leave the one guy i ever loved. Now he is currently in a relationship and he has told people he has moved on. They tell me that he seems like he still has feelings for me just as much as i do for him. Why wont he accept the feeling that he has? What can i do to have him back?I know i did wrong but please give me some advice on what i could do to make it all better.
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reader, Viviana +, writes (3 December 2007):
I would make it very well known that you still love him...and just wait. If he loves you as much as you love him, he'll be back. It may take a while, be patient.
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reader, KittenMagic  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 You guys need to talk.Arrange to meet him somewhere neutral, like in a cafe or a park, and talk about your feelings. Tell him about the pressure you were under to make that decision, and tell him how you still feel about him. Hopefully, by talking calmly about the situation, you two will either be able to realise how you still feel about each other or at least leave the relationship on a more friendlier note.
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reader, ShyGuy78 +, writes (3 December 2007):
 In matters of the heart, don't listen to the mind! But you already have! Seems that you two shared a great relationship but thats a thing of the past. You prioritized your family over him and he knows his place in your life now.You have heard from others that he still has feelings for you. Its not clear whether he has given you that impression directly. "Why won't he accept the feelings that he has", he must have asked that same question when you left him for your family.Its best to let the sleeping dog lie. But if you still want to give this a shot-1) Call him or meet him2) Apologize (no drama please)3) Openly query whether there is any hope or any future for the 2 of you together4) Keep a logical frame of mind in case the answer is negative and not be emotional or impulsive, just let go!You have shattered his trust once. It will be a very difficult task to get yourself in the same place in his heart again. Sometimes somethings cannot be mended (read- made better). Its best to let go!
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